I'm realizing more and more every day that H plans on being a part of OC life one way or another weather I like it or not. It seems like he'll go to any lengths to decieve me and every time he tries the deception smacks me in the face. Today I found were H was hiding $$$ from me. I think he planned on giving it to W without my knowledge. I truly feel like a fool for believing that we can actually deal with this matter and save our marriage. Heck the truth of the matter is I'm married to a sick sex addict.
I'm beginning to wonder if I really want to deal with this situation. Lord knows I've tried just about everything short of dying and nothing has changed. Now I'm thinking maybe its best that I just cut my losses, lose my house, file banruptcy, divorce and just start my life over again. Yes I know I can get child support, alimony, at least 1/2 his pension, but knowing the real deal I'll still end up losing most of what it took over half of my life to build. God knows I can't see the forest for the trees. H claims he's not leaving hi family for another. But come Feb when the OW returns to work I know its going to get uglyer.

I just need honest advice, support and the ability to vent. God I wish there was something could do legally against those who ripped my family's heart out.

Dear Robbed.

I am sorry you are dealing with this pain and OC issues as well. How long has this A thing been going on?

Are you in counseling as well? Right now all seems quite dismal. While I can't guarantee the WS will ever be 'fixed or cured', with help I know you can.

Howz about we focus on that right now?

take care,
L.