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I'm seeing a counselor today. I'm nervous about it.
My primary goal out of this is to formulate a plan to help get my xw to be willing to reconcile. My secondary goal is to formulate my plan B.
I'm scared the counselor will tell me to just forget the relationship and move on. Hopefully, since she works for a church, she will see the good that could come out of restoring the marriage.
Has anyone else been told to forget it by a counselor? If so, did you?
<small>[ January 06, 2003, 10:59 AM: Message edited by: timbo_e ]</small>
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Don't worry about plan B right now.
But at the same time, since this is for your son(correct?) don't go in there with all guns ablazing. Use this session to gauge the situation.
IMVHO, maybe you could say that you are always willing to give it another shot, not only for your son but for your xW as well.
But be careful, you don't want to start off by sounding selfish. All the focus should be on your son and xW.
If the counselor mentions reconciliation that will be good sign. I would at least mention the possibility and leave it at that. Don't get your hopes up too quickly. This is just the beginning. Good luck. Be strong and caring.
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Today's session is for just me. There is a different session (tomorrow) that is for my son.
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Well if that's the case, I would put the cards out on the table. I would take my previous post under advisement for the joint sessions.
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