Hello everyone,
I haven't been to this website in over a year. I used to visit it frequently when I knew my marriage was headed down the wrong road. Now
I'm going through the final phases of my divorce.
The thing is, I still don't know quite what happenend. Other than he just walked out on me with what to me seemed like no feeling at all. Of course it's a long story so I'll make it short. We had to split 14 months ago due to a "physical altercation" that took place. I left with our 1 year old son. I didn't press charges although I could have with the hopes of still trying to reconcile. It was really the first time there was any type of abnormal behavior in that sense. But after that it was like he used that opportunity as "an out". He seperated everything from bank accounts to our personal belongings. Everytime I tried to make an effort to get back with him he'd make more of an effort to keep things seperate. So after fighting for custody and a long an VERY hard 14 months we are now getting divorced.
The thing is I have suffered so much just grieving the loss of my marriage and just trying to accept that all my hopes and dreams were now shattered. Thank God he has helped me pull through. Without him I don't think I could have endured. Being a single mom is not easy. Especially when your ex is not supportive. He simply visits his child and nothing more.

It has crossed my mind that maybe my ex found someone else. I just can't explain his actions other than that. While I've suffered so much in grieving the loss of this he's just moved on fine and with so little emotion. He never once cried to me or told me he missed me. He never told me he loved me. Just left and has made it quite clear in both actions and words he's very happy. The funny thing is that when we lived together I knew every move he made and I got all the cell phone bills. I never had ANY reason to think he met someone. Am I being nieve? He really always was either home or at work. ( Or at least I thought.) I'm trying to make sense of this all and I can't. Maybe you can help. (Oh, and we hardly talk. So I could never ask him!)

Thanks soo much.

Bump....anyone have any advice for ruby?

Sure sounds like he could have more going on. Will try to answer better later But wanted you to know someone did see your post.

jd

I just think you have to accept the fact that you will probably never know. Unless you can get him to talk, which you said you can't.