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Movie: ABOUT SCHMIDT
#2943229 01/14/03 09:59 PM
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It is a very interesting multi-layered performance by Jack Nicholson .... not to mention Kathy Bates buck naked <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

However, for those of you feeling tender and raw right now .... I wanted to warn about a possible trigger within the movie. There is a small sub-plot involving an EMA .... love letters written to the WS from the OP.

It's just nice to know about this going in ... so as not to get hit blind-sided.

Still, a very good movie.

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Went to see it last Thursday - you are right about triggers and the movie itself - was pretty sad, but very real.

I told my WOH (wayward other half) to go see it definately, but I told him if he went he had to stay through the end - even if it hurt!

That is HIS life if he doesn't pull his head out of you-know-where and fast.....

Anyway, I liked it even though it smarted in places and I think Jack did a fabulous job and Kathy bates too.
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#2943231 01/15/03 12:04 AM
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Oooh, thanks for the heads up. My H is very sensitive about that subject. He'll flip a channel faster than lightening if he hears any words associated with As. Friends, commercials, Forrest Gump (I still haven't figured out the trigger in that one), Will and Grace. I don't know what he'd do in a movie theater!

Jack Nicholson gives me the willies (all work and no play...) so this is a good excuse not to rent it!

But I'd really like to see Unfaithful. What is anyone's opinion about that one?
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UNFAITHFUL resulted in a sleepless night for me. It depicts exactly what your WS is like with the OM/OW. Also the surprise is awful for someone like us. To me it was a HORROR MOVIE. The theme of the movie is how disastrous As are. I know that in real life. I did not need it for my entertainment. What's even more awful my WH sat through it and did not flinch. He acted as if he did not see himself in that movie. Of course, we saw it before D-Day so he could play it cool.

<small>[ January 14, 2003, 11:22 PM: Message edited by: mimi1254 ]</small>
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To me "Unfaithful" was a good movie from the standpoint of what the WS might experience with a A, but overall pretty unrealistic. I was especially disappointed (as a BS) in how the poor husband was portrayed. Not much time was devoted to his emotional anguish before he takes matters in his own hands and "offs" the guy. The best "Affair" movie I've seen so far is "Lantana". I'd highly recommend it!
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I loved LANTANA too. I'm not sure the ending was realistic. It had my miracle ending. The OW loses and the BS wins. My situation is certainly not easily turning out like that unfortunately. Plus the BW in that movie is so much stronger than I am. I wish I could cope as easily as it seems like she does.
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finally got up the guts-a year later to see unfaithfull. rented it and hid it until fwh went to work. watched it all alone.

im sorry i watched it-lots of hurt. but i also think they missed the mark on the betrayal of the bs. his wife has an affair-he finds out- becomes a murderer in the same day and then goes happily to work in the garden.?????

wished i didnt waste my time.
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Okay, I think I'll just stick to Adam Sandler and Jack Black movies for a couple of years! Yeah!!!
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nikko:

"im sorry i watched it-lots of hurt. but i also think they missed the mark on the betrayal of the bs. his wife has an affair-he finds out- becomes a murderer in the same day and then goes happily to work in the garden.?????"

Hm... sounds like I could have saved myself a year of anguish! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Only, I'd be in my workshop! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

All seriousness aside, I have never seen that movie, and don't really want to.

I had a tough time with the beginning of "Minority Report".

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