I needed some advice on this one before I do something stupid or make myself sound desperate. Also I am not sure at this point if I should try to stay in contact with my wife(WS) or not. My wife moved out back at the end of June. I tried to keep in contact but she told me about six weeks ago she will not be answering my emails or my phone calls. The way I see it is if I don't try every now and then to keep in touch it just makes it easier for her to eat her cake. But at the same time I am not sure if I will do more harm then good trying to keep in touch with her.
What are some ways that I can try to keep in touch with her and it doesn't appear like I am on my knee's begging and what not? Anyone have any ideas of some good ways of doing this? Would anyone recommend that I don't contact her and just let it be? If so, why?
I am at that point where I want to keep doing the right thing so I can live guilt free no matter which way this may end up in the end. I don't want to think in five years if I would of just tried once to say hi that this could of all been different.

I don't know your story other than this post and your sig line so please excuse my ignorance.
Is her A still active?
Are you meeting any of her EN's right now?
If so which ones?
If not, than how is she getting her cake and eating it too?

From my point of view if you email on occasion than she knows that she still has a fish on the line if she ever gets hungry. If you flip off that line and let the A die on its own maybe she might start to wonder what you are up to and might want to come back to you. As I recall, your sig line mentioned the Harley's, what does he think?

Still Trying To Save it...
Is her A still active?
Well her A ended back when I caught her. However she is on her own now and I don't know what she does so she could of started it back up, I really don't know.

Are you meeting any of her EN's right now?
I am not meeting any of her EN's because she lives alone and she doesn't want to have any contact with me.

If so which ones?
See answer above..

If not, than how is she getting her cake and eating it too?
Well she is getting her cake and eating it to because she wanted to move out she moved out. I helped her move, I let her take things she needed from the house. Etc...

Harley's, what does he think?
He told me to try and Plan A her. He told me to stay right under her radar but try to keep in contact with her. It has been hard since my wife told me I don't feel the same and that we need to quit having any type of conversations. Has anyone heard that before from there WS? I haven't spoken to Steve in about eight weeks do to the money for the counseling.

CG,

In my opinion, calling her or emailing her will will be an LB if she says she doesn't want any contact with you. Go out and does some things for yourself. Give her her space, she asked for it. Try to learn to enjoy your life without her because, unfortunately, you may have to get used to it. If you do end up divorced, you'll be ahead of the game. If she decides to reconcile, she'll see you as a stronger man who didn't let this beat you down

sad dad

Well I never have really failed at anything in my life that was something on a large magnitude. However this is one thing that I feel like the biggest failure in the world. I mean when I think about it I couldn't even save my marriage. I have never failed at anything even close to this level. I do try to go out and do things. I am ok when I am doing things but it is hard to think that it is over. I agree it would be an LB if I contact her. I also think with me not contacting her we will just drift a part even more if that is possible. Sometime life just kind of sucks...

Maybe a hand written letter sent via US mail would be in order. Phone calls and emails are impersonal. The written word is different, at least to women it is. Try that. I would minimize the R talk though. Plan A all the way. Do you think that would be a LB?

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