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I need to know if anyone here has ever had WS throw up posting on MB to BS? Indirectly or directly? Has a WS thought it to be treacherous, betrayal, anything negative? Any BS's WS used them posting as a way to twist A? I'm not talking about slinging quips here against each other, but possibly that the WS is lurking and is reading? Just need thoughts and wisdom as I am having a very very bad day <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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I don't know of it happening but it would not surprise me to hear that it has. For me, I have told my WW that I am here, she does not know my name, and I hope she does lurk around and see my posts and see the pain her romp in the hay has caused me. I have tried to get her to listen to and read about the MB concepts and she refuses, hopefully if she did lurk she might get her head out of her a$$ and come home. I have never said anything here that I would not say to her if she would only talk to me again.
Sorry to hear you are having a bad day! Anything we can do for you?
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Bumping for the elder MBers.....would much appreciate this...
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I let my WW know I was posting here and she chose to use it as a battleground. Unfortunately, I obliged. I mistakenly thought that she could see how I was really feeling. To her I was sharing details with strangers that don't know us and she used it against me. Since then I have posted less and differently. I personally don't think it is a good idea because you could end up losing this site for support.
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It's hard to know who is lurking here so that's a toughie, however since I have been here I have seen WSs and BSs (from the same R) post. I have seen it chase away the person looking for help and I have seen it help both of the individuals.
It really depends on the individuals and their position on whether they are looking for help, willing to accept it, trying to recover etc.
I have seen it as an LB in some cases. Certainly some people don't want to be talked about in an open forum such as this. If you are thinking of inviting your spouse here I guess you would have to make the call.
I have also seen the OP show up and post after lurking for awhile and that can really blow things out of the water if you know what I mean...
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<small>[ January 17, 2003, 09:14 AM: Message edited by: Elad ]</small>
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No, No, I think you misunderstand me, I am posting on here but heard something from family about WS spouting treachery, and since I have not spoken to him or have had any contact except for the X_Mas update what I hear is that he feels that I am being treacherous. This was baffling to me because I do not know anyone here this is his hometown, the only place anyone knows anything about me is through this board which if you have ever read my postings are anything but treacherous. That is why I asked the question.
Maybe some WS would take BS's postings in a very negative way to twist it to justify their "delusions of affair". Hope that cleared up my question.
Heads and Tails: " I personally don't think it is a good idea because you could end up losing this site for support
What do you mean I could lose support from site? I'm confused.
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