OK folks....I originally confirmed my suspicions about my H with his cell phone. Unfortunately, he knew how I found out. So now I do not know if contact with OW has ceased or not. Does anyone know how to get information on a cell phone that is billed to his business? I would also like to access his email on his computer at work. Any suggestions?
I cannot help but be suspicious for several reasons. One is that I intercepted a Christmas card from one of his OW. The red flags have been at half mast so to speak but they are up and flying again.
I feelthat my marriage has been a lie all of these years...and I am not sure that my husband has really decided to cut the cords.

Hi Sadie,

Sorry you are hurting so bad and up so late posting. I am just getting ready to leave work so this will be short.

I don't have good insight about the work cell and e-mail but I would encourage you to give him the ownership of making you and your family feel safe.

Safe means that there is nothing in your life that makes you be afraid or suffer. This includes the A and all who associate with it. I have learned to use the 'look' of wonderment along with the 'sigh' of despair. These are keys my H now locks into and knows when I feel I am onto something. My instincts are usually right and he knows he is on his way out. This has helped him keep himself in line.

I have sniffed the air (when I sensed something stink was happening with the OW) and even would say something doesn't feel right. It is true. The spouse can tell when something is amidst.

JMHO,
L.