<small>[ February 05, 2003, 04:51 PM: Message edited by: TheCalypso ]</small>

<small>[ February 05, 2003, 04:52 PM: Message edited by: TheCalypso ]</small>

Stormy, I was thinking "cop out" before I saw your second post.

Seems this article contains a lot of things that can help create a poor relationship environment. But where's the "selfish" reason?

<small>[ February 05, 2003, 04:52 PM: Message edited by: TheCalypso ]</small>

I am a woman and my cheating went only as far as an online emotional affair but I can relate to almost every one of these things.
* I changed my hair from dark brown to strawberry blonde and he noticed 17 days later. Yeah that's right, 17 long, sad days.
* I still turn heads on the street but the last time my husband told me I looked nice was August of 1998 when we were going to a wedding. And I bought this hot little red nighty for our anniversary last year and do you know what he said?? What a waste of money for something that's comming off right away!
* Sex that sounds familiar. Maybe from another lifetime
* My husband was nice now he's irritable. He worked out now he's a couch potato. He doesn't care what he looks like when we're at home. He said he married me why should he need to impress me!
* Lack of attention is exactly why I had my online thing. The guy gave me time and attention.

I know you guys don't want to believe it but MOST women are not rotten. Most women only want time, attention, love and the knowledge that they are special and important to you. That doesn't take much work

MJ - I've edited my response in case you already read it. I did this after reading your other post. Pardon me, please.

<small>[ January 18, 2003, 07:16 AM: Message edited by: worthatry ]</small>

I didn't see it worthatry but there's no reason to apologize for how you feel. Everyone is entitled to their opinions after all. I have read alot here and I have read alot of your stuff and I admire you and how you handled your situation. Sorry if I pushed your buttons. I said MOST women aren't rotten. Some are though and I feel for you guys who have that type. Me, all I ever wanted was to be married til death as the vows go. I just don't know if that's realistic in this crazy mixed up world.

MJ - I can identify with the neglect you describe from your H. I suffered the same kind of indifference - not the hair part, though! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> (I think she noticed it disappearing.)

I knew I was vulnerable for an affair, but I resisted. I think this was the button you pushed when I read your response to Stormy's post. I could have rationalized justification, but I didn't. But then I recalled that I had no real temptation - I was focused on my young boys and consciously avoided situations where I might be tempted. In different settings, I may have fallen into the same trap.

WAT