I've been married for the past 5 years, but involved with my husband for the past 13 years. When we meant we was both involved with other people. As the relationship went on I left my friend but he continued to see other women. We broke up for a year because I heard he had another child two weeks after our son was born. A couple of years later we decided to get back together and at that time I asked if the child was his and he advised no possible. We recently seperated because he was having problems with drugs and handling his responsibilities. During the seperation he went back with his old girlfriend whom child he said was not his. Come to find out for years he lied to me about the child and seen the child maybe twice out of the year. We decided to work at the marriage one last time, but since we have been back together I can not trust him anymore but I stll have feelings for him and now I have to live with the fact that this child is actually his. He has however left drugs alone and takes care of his responsibilties, but how do you work through this mess.

Hi Anita and welcome to MB.

You have a lot of issues to deal with here and probably the best place to start is to find a good IC or MC. Read the concept section above, take the EN questionnaire and also post your story on the preg/child site here at MB.

take care,
L.