i mean the tv show cheaters.its on saturday night.i ask this because my wife(ws) and i can sit down and whatch that show and movies that deal with affairs and she doesn't mind it.yet if i mention her A she clams up.is it because the shows are dealing with someone else,not her.thats what i think it is.she wont talk during those shows.she just whatches.sometimes i can see her eyes watering,but no talk.its not like i ask her to watch them ,most of the time she finds the channel.she loves the lifetime channel and saops.which deal with affairs all the time.she watches the tv talk shows and laughs sometimes.but will not discuss herself.anyone else deal with this.

OUCHIE! I've never watched it, never will watch it, have no desire to watch it! Reality based shows which are anything but truly reality, but a source of amusement based on the pain of another...are something I will not support by my viewing!!!

I'm not going to try and play "mindreader" as to why your W does what she does. ASK HER!

As for the not discussing herself...that's THE problem! If she isn't communicating with you...that is the issue you need addressed.

You and W in counseling? If not, you should be.jmho

Good Luck!

I too believe these shows do marriages no good. These day time soaps glarmorize, affairs and everyone sleeping with one another. Stay at home moms watch this sh*t daily, and i find it hard to believe it has no effects on them.

Add to it the Oprah show with Dr. Phil bashing the husbands, Look out when you get home for dinner. The men in my office laugh about how the wifes quiz them when they get home about Dr. Phils comments. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Maybe not for all, but for some ,i think these type shows are an escape from reality. and soften the mind <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I just don't see how you can possibly heal your marriage if she refuses to talk about her affair and what caused it so you can prevent it from happening again. It sounds very selfish of her to not communicate with you on this issue. I would be fearful it would happen again because she has refused to deal with the issue. I guarantee you if you had a sexual affair with another woman your wife would not allow you to say I don't wish to talk about it. Unfortunately your wife is still disrespecting you and not allowing true recovery to take place.

i want to say this much.there was talk about the A.but it was while it was going on.like in the plan A stage.this was over 2 years ago,long before i knew of MB.after the a ended we made an agreement that the a would never be brought up again.i was an idiot for agreeing but i did.so i cant just break that agreement.major LB'er.it has been discused a few times over the years but very limited talk.and usually it ends with her crying.she is very emotional.i just wonder how she feels about it today.her silence during shows concerns me.she can watch,so it cant effect her to much,yet she wont comment on anything.
for those that wont watch shows dealing with A's,why not.its a part of life.sad as that is.and i feel that if you cant watch a show on it,how can you ever expect to deal with it.yes some shows enhance it and even glorify it,but it is real people experiencing it.just as its real people on here.and if your able to look past all the smut there is things to be learned.
i mentioned the show cheaters for a reason.for those that havn't watched it its not like opra or dr. phil.its poeple that suspect thier spouces are cheating.they contact this company(cheaters)and they assist in finding evidence ,if any.once any evidence is found the spouce is able to confront the WS while they are with the OP.there is no chance of denile or lieing.its all on tape.when its done there are no questions of when and where.its on tape.you see it.the EA vrs PA is clear.its on tape.i cant help but wonder if i had known of this company then i wouldn't have these unverified questions and answers that i have now.
my question is for those that have seen it.or are able to watch other types of shows.does your spouce "clam up"or do they talk about it.

Rob, never seen the show. But My H and I do watch Dr.Phil who I think gives some good advice and has some good books out. But he doesn't have time or I should say take the time to really go in depth. Which frustrates me! Some subjects I think he should give a whole week to!
We discussed H's A for a long time. Mostly with arguments as he refused to just discuss calmly.
Now, he will not bring it up nor does he want me to. He says he just wants to forget the terrible thing he did and not feel the guilt anymore.
If a show is on about A's, he will change the channel for he knows it upsets me.
We try not to watch shows about A's. other than if it was discussed on Dr.Phils as he is a counselor. The rest is crap and only upsetting.
Wokeup is right. Day time TV tries to clamorize A's and adulterous behavior. We've got a sick world today and a lot of sick people eat this stuff up.
Anyone ever walk around looking gorgeous all day, even when you wake up? LOL No one on soaps has bad breath either. And gosh, nobody works because they're too busy in everyone else's business.
Pure Fantasy! And too many sit and watch this thinking they need this type of life to be happy. Sad thinking.
LouLou