Hi all. I don't know if you have been following my posts about feeling like a Yo-Yo, she loves me, she loves me not etc...Well after this round of faking that she loves me so I would just give her money I got reaaly pissed and LB'ed big time.

Now I have gone from the neatest/sweetest guy in the world her "hero"--"H Come home now"

To

"I am happier with out you" "I don't even need anti-deps anymore. Its almost as if she is saying I was the cause of her having to use that medication. Could it be perhaps she may have got on them because she created a mess with her A and had to constantly cover up lies, sprint to the phone if it rang etc...We have been seperated for 6 months now. Legally Seperated. D-Day is 4 days away. And to think one year ago this time, I thought I was the absolute luckiest guy in the world. Man its tough to look back that all of those good times I was sharing with someone else.

I know she will attempt to manipulate another reconsilliation. Probably not in the near future

HOW SHOULD I RE-ACT next time. I mean I want my marriage but I also want to be treated right too.

I feel bad for LB'ing when she faked her reconsilliation attempt, but I felt burned all over again, and I was doing SO GOOD working on me.
Now I am down in the dumps, like I lost her again and it just hurts SO MUCH when she shoves it in my face how "happy" she is with out me. I do want her to be happy, but does she really need to say that?

I don't know guys, I really could use some great advise on any and all my points.

You guys are great

Thanks

Rly

Guys, should I plan b hard core now? I have tried versions of it in the past.

I really need to know what you guys feel I should do. I personally feel to plan B as best I can when we share custody of children

****HELP****

Plan B is implemented because the strain of the continued affair starts draining the love of the BS and s/he starts to lose control and love busts the WS. Does this fit your scenario?

Many BS's fear Plan B because they beleive the M may end because of the physical separation between the spouses (a good legitimate point). But what they don't realize is that by not going to plan B, they risk ending the M when their love bank account for their WS, gets closed out for good. They also don't realize is that the preservation of love is very important for the difficult beginnings of marital recovery. Additionally, the OP will have the 'privilige' of meeting all of the WS's EN's, which will inject a potentially toxic dose of reality to the fantasy of the A.

It's your call. Good luck.

Rly,
I'd wondered how you were doing. I appreciate the input you've given to my situation.

I don't have anything wise to add here. I think Coffeeman gave a good clarification of MB principles.

I am sorry for what you're going through with your wife. It is admirable to me that you are trying so hard to save things, despite her actions.

God bless,
H_P