I posted my story here awhile back while waiting for MC to start. Now that we've had our first session I'm not sure where we go from here.

Quick recap - my H and I have been married for 24 years separated for the past 6 months. During that time he has revealed a previous PA and ONS and is now involved in another PA. He also revealed that he was sexually abused as a young teen. We separated over his alcohol abuse.

H has come to realize he was abusing alcohol and has taken steps to deal with this problem. However, he has only revealed the sexual abuse to me and says he is not ready to deal with it yet. He hinted about it to our MC but said the emotions surrounding it are too overpowering for him.

He also said in counselling that "his feelings for me have not changed from the day he met me" yet he no longer wants to be married to me. He feels we fought too much over his alcohol abuse and he no longer has the energy. I countered by saying that now that he recognizes the problem and I have recognized that I handled it incorrectly did he think that maybe things could be different. No reply.

He also said that he cannot go back and change his past actions. He knows that he has hurt me and our two kids (D19 and S24) and while he is extremely remourseful he cannot change what he did. Both the C and I tried to tell him that we were not there to change the past but to learn from it and hopefully make the future better.

He still left the session saying that he thought we would be better as friends even though I am the most important person in the world to him (his words). Can anyone make any sense of this?

Thanks.