My wife of 7 years and I have what seems to me to be a great marriage. We both attend church, she is SAHM for our 2 children (ages 5 and 3), sex life is pretty decent, both say we love each other several times daily and are very affection towards each other.
The other day, though things seemed with my wife seemed kinda strange to me making me wonder if she may have been cheating on me. Perhaps you ladies out there could help me out with either my paranoia or perhaps I should keep an eye on things. OK the other day, my wife seemed to be acting a little down. She wasn't her bubbly self. She said its probably just a rut maybe because of the winter, hormones or something. Along with the slightly unusual behavior, there was a few other things. First we work together parttime in the evenings. We frequently flirt at our PT job (no one else around), kiss, pinch rumps etc. Well as I was kissing her and my hands wandered to her rear. I didn't feel the undie line. I asked her if she was wearing the sexy thong undies I got her for X-mas (her only pair). She got kinda defensive when I asked and wouldn't let me find out. Later that night after we were home, I noticed in the dirty laundery that she was in fact wearing her sexy thong (and sexiest bra as well). Inside of her underwear was a white crusty "something" stained in the crotch. Besides what I was naturally thinking, is there potential vaginal secretions that women produce that may have caused this white crusty stain (besides what a man may leave behind)? The stains disappeared in the wash. Other than that instance, I have no suspisions about my wife. At the same time I don't want to get blindsided. Before further analyzing our relationship I'd like to get the stain issue resolved first.

Thanks!

Why question the underwear , was she not with you before hand ? yes that can be normal . Do the kids mention other things any weird names or new friends? does she go out alot more then normal?
cell phone at all ? go on computer ? Is she still interested in sex or has then been less?

I would say the underwear thing isjust you , unless other things start adding up . Other then that plan a romantic night together , get a baby sitter without her knowing , sometimes women that stay home just get BLUE for no reson other then they think there H doesn't look at them that way or really appreciate them .

If she is doing something wrong it will come out .

If you to flirt and that stoped or she started rejecting you then worry if not keep loving her the same and maybe even more for the thought that it can happen to anyone .

Take a look at the book his needs/her needs. Then see if you can locate one called: Givers/takers. Just a few books to consider and I am sure there will be other suggestions.

Print out a copy of the emotional needs questionnaire and see if she is willing to have both of you take it together.....if she asks why, just mention it was a suggestion you heard about and thought that it would be fun to try.

If she accuses you of being paranoid or that you may be insinuating that she is having an A (guilt version in play), then ask should I be? Act like that would be news to you, then she her reaction. Be prepared that she may have beans to spill.....read up on the concepts section above and see how to react.

No need to get paranoid. Time to find out. The above suggestions are a way to do so without being evasive.

L.

The underwear stain can be attributed to other things besides sexual relations. I just don't see any "there" there.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by 3isacrowd:
<strong>Why question the underwear , was she not with you before hand ? yes that can be normal . Do the kids mention other things any weird names or new friends? does she go out alot more then normal?
cell phone at all ? go on computer ? Is she still interested in sex or has then been less?

I would say the underwear thing isjust you , unless other things start adding up . Other then that plan a romantic night together , get a baby sitter without her knowing , sometimes women that stay home just get BLUE for no reson other then they think there H doesn't look at them that way or really appreciate them .

If she is doing something wrong it will come out .

If you to flirt and that stoped or she started rejecting you then worry if not keep loving her the same and maybe even more for the thought that it can happen to anyone .</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Except for the stain and the strange behavior of the day, there are no other suspisions. As long as you ladies out there can confirm that the underwear stain is on the "up-and-up" then we're fine and I can just chalk it up under the paranoia catagory. It was just something I had no clue about (female anatomy stuff)and wanted to make sure that everything was fine. It appears it is. Thanks!