Hi John,
Yep, yep ,yep......I like the writeup! Uhh.....#4, I agree with the play hard to get part but not the dating..... too much too soon!
#2, 3 & 5 not 100% the gist of it and keep them guessing.
IMHO, if these techniques are applied, do it reasonable quantities (not too much or too little) and you don't give away your status or all the answers.... then this keeps the WS guessing.
You see the A does not survive well when the BS is happy. That is not part of their equation.
Most BS do not realize that the much of the conversation between the Ws and OP consist of the BS. If this is true in your case (BS finds out because they hear about all the bad mouthing from the WS or others)......, if it is true, then the BS can use this to the BS' benefit.
When the BS is strong enough, play back those stupid WS lines back to the WS, see how they like it. Most don't. In many cases the WS would not put up with what the BS puts up with (or so they say....).
My reverse babble techinque for me difused the A. Ws even said in an e-mail that he could no longer bad mouth me to the OW. Her retort was to try to do a memory recall and she even played back his words from 1 year earlier.... he then told her what he had said was not true and she told him that she was just not going to believe it...... in other words the OW choose to believe the lie. Of course I was blessed with a PBR (psyco babble rabbit), so maybe others don't have to deal with such nonsense. LOL!!! But if you do, this reverse babble stuff can be helpful.
L.
<small>[ February 20, 2003, 03:13 AM: Message edited by: Orchid ]</small>
