My WH was gone, we were going marriage counseling,
he came to me and said he didn't feel anything anymore. He came to me about 3 weeks later and confessed his affair, told me he realized what he was losing, his best friend. We continued conseling, and he was still confused. He came to me a few months later and said we can do it, he loved me lets go forward. He came home a few months after that, he planned a great vacation for us, had a great summer. He became confused again in the fall, he can't seem to touch me, kiss me, anything of the sort, unless he has had
some drinks. He was gone for two months, but always called me, almost everyday. He came back again and we made big plans to move forward and he
has told me several times over this whole ordeal that he wants his marriage back, he misses me, the
OW and him each need to find their own happiness. Then he ends up still on the fence, back and forth. Now he tells me that he just dosen't feel it in his heart, to let him go. I
am not going to call him this time, I don't know what to do. He has continued conseling through this, even on his own. Any advice, insight would help me.

For one thing, if you two are to try to reconcile, the other woman has to be totally out of the picture, for good. Gone, buried, gotten rid of. Then he has to make a committment to work on the marriage. And the best route is to have a 3rd party to help. There are good marriage counselors out there that will help. You need someone out there to help the two of you communicate, to help the two of you listen to each other. Doing the emotional needs is probably somewhere the two of you could start.

To counsel with the Harleys, does cost money. If you are unable to afford counseling with them, there are other good counselors out there. Sometimes you have to look around.

Good Luck, and keep your head up high, through the difficult times as well as the good times.