Quick update. My W moved most of her stuff out of the house last weekend and should be completely out by Friday. I'm moving back into the house this weekend and I can't wait. It'll be a BUSY few days for me. I've got two rooms to paint, cleaning to do and alot of packing, but I'm really looking forward to it.

For what ever reason, even though my W moved the big stuff last weekend, she's not out of the house yet. I stopped by today and there's still alot of her stuff there. You'd think she'd be in a huury to get into her own place, but maybe the reality that she really IS leaving her home (for good???) is making it tough. I think deep down she hates knowing that I got the house.

Nothing going on with the D. No word from her or my lawyer. It's been like this for months, but since custody is long since settled and the house issues are settled, my W's got no more excuses not to proceed with the D full steam ahead, if this is really what she wants. Things should get interesting.

sad dad

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Happy to hear you are moving back home!

L.

I agree that you have reason to be carefully optimistic. First and foremost, you are doing something for yourself & sorting your life out in a positive way, which is good. You let WW take responsibility of her own actions which is also cool.
Did you decide whether to give WW a key, a room? if she wants to visit (for whatever reason - and she will find them, like I forgot to pick up this, that etc), do you want her to call, be there etc? Basically, what I'm asking is did you think about how communication will work between you? I dont have a firm opinion on that one. Me, the eternal optimist, would probably tend to reach out my hand and let her come if she wants. Having said that, you also need to move on, right?

Nick,

I'm sure there are going to be reasons for her to stop by (legit or not), but if she does not leave her keys and the garage remote when she finally leaves, I will ask her for them. Quite simply, it isn't her house anymore. If she needs to stop by, she can call first.

sad dad

Hi SD! Congrats on your plans to move back in! I know how much you prefer living in a real home compared to the townhouse.I agree with you that you should not leave your W a key after she gets all moved into her new pad. I saw on your sig line that you think there has been renewed contact between your W and OM? Why do you think that? Have you talked to your W about it? Take care- LIM

Whoops! I got your sig line mixed up with Nick's! He has is the wife with recent contact with OM. Sorry bout that!BTW are you still concerned about your W's drinking?

LIM,

Nice to hear from you. Hope all is well and recovery is going great. Yes, I am very concerned about my W's drinking, but if she won't admit to it or talk to me about it, there's not much I can do. Maybe she's affraid I'll use it against her somehow. I think reality is starting to take it's toll on her, which I expected would happen at some point, and she's drinking to cope with it. It doesn't work.

sad dad

Nick,

I was at the house today doing some work and my W stopped by to pick up some things. I left for awhile and when I got back she had left her keys and the garage remote, so I didn't have to ask. She also left a note reading "there are still a few things I'll need to pick up", so I guess I'll still see her from time to time.

sad dad

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All moved in. I worked my butt off this weekend, but I'm FINALLY back in my house. It felt so good to sleep in my bed, in my BR, in MY house. Still alot of work to do getting it in order, but it will be worth it. Hey, and I got the dog!!
He's kind of part of the package with the house.

So, I've got my house, my dog and my daughter half the time. The only thing missing is my W. The package isn't quite the same without her.

sad dad

Need another dog? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

WAT,

I'll take the dog if you take my stbxW.

HAPPY 4 U THAT YOU'RE HOME. SORRY ABOUT THE W SITCH.

saddad,

Good to hear you are settling in. You have been out for a while and deserve to be home.

Howz about throwing a housewarming party? Right here on MB. Each guest can bring a dish (complete with recipe or descriptio) or a gift (something unique - again with full description).....will let our imagination run wild and be a good diversion.

We used to throw MB cyber parties here before. I even found a few good recipes off of it.

Let us know! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

L.

Orchid,

Cyber housewarmng parties?? Sounds interesting. Fill me in.

sad dad

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by sad dad:
<strong>Orchid,

Cyber housewarmng parties?? Sounds interesting. Fill me in.

sad dad</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, you start another thread and name it something like "Saddad's Cyber Housewarming Party....... all are invited"

You can write a small invite or if you want, I can throw the party for you!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

As the host you will be one of the main one to comment on your 'gifts', party foods, games, music and jakularity (sp??? - from **MASH**).

I think it can be fun. When we did this in 2001, it went on for weeks. We may be surprised at some of this hidden talent we have here.

For example, you know Nikko is a gourmet cook and a few others are quite good also. If we can find someone to mix the drinks, another to host the music (where is our lyricist?), story teller, jokster, etc. I am sure we could have some fun and lighten up this place a bit.

L.

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