Tell you what; when I'm settled in, and get my act together, we'll have a big BBQ at my place, we'll all meditate for a bit, then we'll fire up the grill, roast the OM <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> , and have a grand ole time! LOL!!!

And everyone's invited!!! Even my W! (I'm sure y'all are dying to meet her! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> , and she IS a sweet lady!)

<small>[ April 15, 2003, 02:11 PM: Message edited by: Spacecase ]</small>

Will I get to play the sharp shooter or the prison guard? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by kily:
<strong>Will I get to play the sharp shooter or the prison guard? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">LOL!!! Darlin', you can play whatever you sweet heart desires! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I want to play "Pin the tail on the OP". (a very alien like 'donkey' aka: J A) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Can I bring a dessert? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Let's have a cyber MB BBQ!!!!

L.

Dessert? Of course! Just make sure it's "Flambe'" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Cadet,

Then start a new thread. It has been a while since we had a cyber BBQ. Don't think we ever had a Texan one.

I was actually thinkin of some pineapple upside down cake (for those in the fog, they may turn it over anyways and eat the pineapple last..... LOL!!). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

L.

SC Update:

I sat down with D for a bit today, and let her know we need to talk, so that we can sit down and talk to the children about the divorce.

I mean they "know" it's in the works, but the time has come to let them know it's NOW. I told her we'd postponed it long enough, and that we'd "run out of weekends" in which to do it. That I need to start packing, and I can't do that until we've talked to them, and that thay'll need a bit of time to get used to the idea, and know what's actually going to happen.

Of course, like every other time, she says this is not "the right time" for that...but I said, "look , we've run out of time. I get my apartment on the 25th, and I need time to pack, and there's a lot to take care of."

She's not happy about this day finally arriving, I'm sure, as I am not either. But we do have to face the reality...and J (our eldest) will also be home this weekend (coming up tomorrow for the first night of Passover)...so it's as good a time as any...not that ANY of this has happened at "the right time"...

A bit later she came uop to my room, crying, hugged me and held my hand. She just said "I'm sorry for all the pain I've caused you...I really am."

I responded "I know...I know; I'm sorry too, and it's OK."

Then she said "I want you to remember what I told you at the restaurant; I really love you. And I do really love you."

She was crying...turned and left...

But I know there's no turning back now...I'm afraid this is really the end. I'm ready...

All My Love! ♥

<small>[ April 15, 2003, 09:20 PM: Message edited by: Spacecase ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">But I know there's no turning back now...I'm afraid this is really the end. I'm ready...

All My Love! &#9829;
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">ooohhhh... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I think it is the end too...but, I also think that it could be the beginning.

It is the beginning and time will only tell if it is with her or without her. I think it has been too easy for her.

I don't want her to hang on to you for the wrong reasons. She is fixing to get a real dose of reality!

I support you. I really think it is time and it has to be done this way.

♥ Susan

Thanks, Susan.

Someone once said that perhaps "Our love isn't over, but it is complete."

It's feeling like that right about now.

Spacecase, Make it a huge grill, OW is coming to join OM on it! LOL Too bad we really can't do what we'd like, and see real justice done! Get it. Done? LOL No Rare, no med,just WELL Done.
I love a party ole southern style. LOL
LouLou

Spacecase, I have followed your story off and on and have become an admirer of yours. I am sad that you and your wife are divorcing at this time. However, you have shown more perseverance and understanding. Yours has been a story of personal growth and development.
If I had walked in your shoes I don't know if I would have held on as long as you have. Luckily for me, my H saw the light sooner and we are stronger for the relationship we have evolved into.
I hope in the coming days, months you gain the peace you deserve and your life is enriched.
I hope your wife also has a blinding flash of enlightenment.
You should share with the children the knowledge you have concerning the man your wife is involved with. They need to be prepared for the type of man he apprears to be.

Also wanted to bump this up so others could share in your story. You are an example to others.

texasgirl

Thanks, TG!

Fortunately, things seem to be turning out ok for all of us.

We've all hurt, cried, learned, grown, and hopefully we'll all be better for it!