No secret now, my W is having A. It's been on for maybe two months, I found out two weeks ago. OM is married and lives 300 miles away so they only see each other every two weeks or so. She has moved in with her mother, but this can only be temporary. She says she wants to come home for a while until she can make other arrangements, though I think she just wants to be here when she can't be with him. I would still do anything to save our marriage (I've read HNHN, etc.) and am starting Plan A, but W is in complete withdrawl and says there is no chance and will make no effort. Financially, it would be a stretch but an apartment or something could be done for either of us, but I am determined to stay and make a home for my girls (15 & 17), who know nothing about the A. W says her name is on deed and I cannot force her out. I suggested she could come home as long as she agreed not to see OM while here hoping time, distance, home life would give me a better chance, but she insists there is no hope and that she still wants to be with OM when she can. Had she said yes I would have assumed she was lying, so at least she was straight up about it. Obviously I can not be a willing party to A, but I'm in a tough spot. What would be the best living arrangement that I could suggest (or demand) that will give me an opportunity to save my marriage?