Wanting I read your post below....and thought that you brought up some good points about not buying into the FOG THEORY...(duh duh duh daaaaa) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> just imaginge heavy organ music playing in the back-ground each time the 'fog' word appears....
I use the term fog a lot in my postings....but I think that it is good to revisit what that means for different people and what deeper applications may apply to the use of the 'fog' word...duh duh duh daaaaaa...
perhaps you and I and others may want to address this term....
TO ME...(me me me <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> )....the use of the word fog...is really pertaining to the depth of an affair relationship....
Let me say that I find the occurance of infidelity to be a grossly disrepectful act to ALL THREE people involved...meaning that in my opinion it is a toxic relationship to the BS, WS AND...the OP...
(throw in kiddies and then we've just added the potential to hurt even more people)
I realize that this board can be top heavy with BS points of view...and that pain comes out more often than not...but that doesn't mean that people here don't acknowledge the pain of the WS here...
In my opinion the term fog is not used to deny that the feelings of the WS/OP are not heavily felt....It is not meant to deny the existance of these feelings...what the term fog symbolizes is the circumstances that exist in making these feelings/promises unrealistic based on the present circumstances....
I believe that all people deserve to be in relationships that truly celebrate their souls worth....and people that are married can not truly celebrate in all ways their relationship with others outside of that marriage...It is the truest form of living in a state of painful opposition...
And connecting with others only on certain levels...be them sexualy..emotionally...conversationally...without
the whole package causes damage to all involved...
A fullfilling relationship in one in which we can nuture and be nutured when the need is present at any moment...not when it exists only within certain realms.
The term fog in my opinion is more a term used to describe someone professing such profound emotion which they do feel with out the freedom to really follow up on them....it is not denying the feeling...It is denying the action behind the feeling.
Just my spin on it....
ARK
