Since last post on this thread "a lot" has happened.
First of all the party for MIL went well, I felt good, looked good, and later WH noted that he thought I sounded like I was "moving on".
Things quickly deteriorated from that point.
Within a few days I was in "Meltdown" mode. Felt the impact of the last 3 months bearing down on me like a freight train out of control.
Tried to make a quick get away for a few days so as not to meltdown in front of kids, was going to get WH to come home and watch kids(he's laid off, has the time)
Unfortunately, my state of mind was picked up by a certain sibling of mine who was following my posts unbeknownst to me and called in the troops, other siblings, sherrifs dept. and called WH before I could. They thought I had gone over the edge and were worried(not WH, he thinks I'm doing this to make him look bad)
WH would not come to watch kids, then later said he would, after they had gone with my brother. And only until the weekend as he was "going away". (with OW to celebrate their birthdays) And now accuses me of telling everyone he wouldn't come(truth hurts),and that I just wanted to spoil weekend. Also, if I had just given him some notice, he would have "gladly" come. Sorry, I didn't have the luxury of planning my meltdown.
To make a long story short, family did "let" me get away for a few days, in fact they insisted on it, even put me up in a nice hotel for a night. They felt it was long overdue(including the 3 yrs I've been holding down the fort while WH works away)
They took kids with them, they missed school for 2 days, but it gave me 4 or 5 days to myself. I cried nonstop the first 2.
WH made it a point to call everyday to harass me, threatening to take the kids from my brothers house and I'd have to fight to get them back, then backing off, then saying he thought about having me committed, repeating that I'm just doing this to make him look bad, then insisting on filing a Do-It-Yourself Divorce as soon as this week! Right!! He has no $$ to file right now and feels we could agree on everything anyways! Right!!
Some of things he said to me while I'm trying to get my head together..."I hate your guts, I'm tired of being Mr."Learnin", and your puppet", and I finally hung up on "you are the f@##n scum of the F@##n earth!"
That was fri. afternoon.
Saturday, I had lots of energy and cleaned all day. A group of friends were going to go out Sat. night to a city just 1/2 hr from home and wanted me to go so I did.
The first club was a bust, the band didn't show. I said to my friend, "Wouldn't it be something if WH turned up in this city for his getaway(2 hrs. from where he is) and walked into the same bar?"
She of course answered, no way could that happen....!
Tons of other places to go to in this city, so we pick another...the band is hot, we're all dancing having a great time,I'm feeling good for a change, it's about 11pm.....
I look over at the bar and who's ordering a drink.....WH & OW!!!!
I couldn't believe it...What were the odds?... I never ever go out, we end up in the same city, same club...
I approached them anyways, said "Well if it isn't MR. "Learnin", & sarcastically wished OW a happy Birthday, she didn't want to look at me at first and then I just headed back to dance, they didnt stick around.
I'm sorry, but why did he bring her to "our" city, it's where we courted, same section of town, where we first lived....?
And why did we end up in the same place at the same time?
I believe in signs and such, and I can't help but feel that we just can't get away from our "connection", and I know that, which is why I want to fight for the M and he fails to recognize that anymore. He used to feel that way.
I'm sure others will say " just a coincidence", but it sure was freaky to me!
Anyways, he's supposed to come up this week, wants to talk about a D, but I really haven't talked to him much. He did acknowledge our chance meeting as being too weird. He had just got through jokingly telling OW that her H was at the Bar that I was over there, when he did actually spot me....
Also, OW's H is well aware of their activities...she is still denying to him.
Thats my continuing saga for now....I'm feeling better now...am contemplating AD's or sleeping aids to start at least. Maybe it well keep me from another meltdown. I thought I was doing OK up till then...
Not sure of status of Plan A, or where to go from here. Only you guys understand my reluctance to give up yet...everyone else thinks there is no hope..
