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My H's gf's H called this morning wantiing to know if my H is going back to his ex wife or that my H should call her if he is not. He told me she is hurting. I said wait she got into the relationship knowing my H was married still and he said so did your H. Their divorce was going through when my H was seeing her. Well he continued to say she thought things were going to be different between my H and her and my H lead her to believe that.
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That is very interesting Goldie! The OW has been turning to her soon to be ex-H to tell him how upset she is feeling. Very interesting.
I guess at some point you should approach your H about writing a NC letter. However, just don't answer phone calls from the OW or OW's STBX. (Do you have call display? Myabe you should even consider changing your phone number at some point.) Worry about you and your H and working on your marriage. You owe OW and her STBX absolutely nothing. They know that your H has returned to you, and that's all they really deserve to know.
Does your H know about the STBX's phone call? What did he have to say about it if he did?
Those are just my thoughts,
Jen
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Oh dear, we couldn't let the OW suffer in pain, now could we? Was she concerned about your pain, goldie? My heart just bleeds. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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Goldie,
Also, he should not be calling your home. It is outrageous that he feels free to invade your boundaries like this. No way, Jose'. That is YOUR HOME and your husband and he should not be calling there on behalf of your H's GF. That is an invasion of your safe haven.
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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> It takes all kinds I suppose.
She must be driving him nuts and he's trying to off load her.
Even if your H has not sent a no contact letter, you can establish no contact for yourself. Just do not answer his calls anymore. If he does get you, simply tell him you are not interested in talking to him anymore. Then say bye and hang up.
The guy's an idiot (not that I have an opinion or anything like that).
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I think my H is having thoughts about going back to his gf. We were out last night and he keeps throwing my A in my face bad. Then when we came home, he doesn't have his cell phone, but he checked to see if he had messages from her on it, but didn't, then he accussed me of erasing them and I didn't.
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