Well, I last spoke with H on Tuesday. I hadn't heard from him or seen him since. It was very difficult for me not to call and talk with my stepdaughters when he had them Wednesday, but I stayed strong and got through it. He's got his girls for the weekend too. It's been very difficult for me. But.....

Today, my three kids and I went shopping. While in town we met H on the road. I didn't see him until the kids said we had just past him so I never waved. We then went to the local lake and played. We threw big rocks at the ice that was left on the lake trying to break it. We did all kinds of silly things and had a great time!!! It was an absolutely gorgeous day!! As we were leaving the lake and driving through town, we again met H. He about waved his arm off at us and I waved back and smiled.

I have not heard from him. I have not called him. I miss him though.

I'm trying to change my attitude and in doing so will hope that he sees the strong independent mother of four that he fell in love with rather than the jealous, untrusting person that I showed him I was deep inside. I'm still getting help with my issues and would ask for your continued support and prayers that my marriage is restored.

Also, I'm ready Men Are From Mars; Women Are From Venus. How true that book is!!! And it almost exactly explains why H is acting as he is.

Keep me in your prayers and let me know how I'm doing.

I don't want to do a Plan B, but feel after our argument last weekend, that he needs a while before I make any phone calls or contact with him. Just how long would you give?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by ferbie:
<strong>

I'm trying to change my attitude and in doing so will hope that he sees the strong independent mother of four that he fell in love with rather than the jealous, untrusting person that I showed him I was deep inside. ?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ferbie, it sounds like you are doing a great job focusing on yourself and the kids!

But I wonder if you could clarify something for me? Were you UNREASONABLY jealous and untrusting or did you have good reason to be so? I mean, the man did have an affair, right? That would lead me to believe that he is not a trustworthy person. In that circumstance, it would be a normal, rational healthy response to be untrusting. On the other hand it would be insane to trust an untrustworthy person.

Actually, I was unreasonably jealous and untrusting. I take full responsibility for not completely dealing with past issues that I had that I brought into our relationship. My husband then began to talk to an old acquaintance that worked in the office of the company he worked for. They worked in separate locations 30-45 minutes apart. Although him confiding in this person would constitute an EA of sorts, there is nothing more that came of it that I am aware of and I have no reason to believe otherwise.

I hope this answers some of your questions.

Thanks for clarifying that for me, that fills in some questions I had. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />