My H and I had a huge fight on the 8th in which he told me he was never coming home, wasn't willing to try, and when asked said he wanted a divorce. This all after he'd just spent the previous weekend in my home and then came for supper on the 7th.

After our argument, I have spoken to him on two separate occasions. The last time being Tuesday. I felt sure he would have his girls call me either Wednesday evening or over the weekend when he had them for visitation, but he did not. That makes me sad as I miss them very much.

I was wondering if it would be wrong to contact him just to see how he's doing or if I should let him make the first contact? It's only been five days without speaking to him. I did meet him on the road while driving twice on Saturday, the first time I didn't see him in time to wave. The second time he about waved his arm off at me. I don't want to contact him too soon, but I do miss him terribly.

I'm not sure if his words on Saturday truly reflect his intentions or if he's confused as he told me he was just a week and a half prior to our argument.

Can anyone give me some insight? How long should I go before contacting him? Should I at all? We have not children together, but his girls were like mine kids and I miss them. Likewise, I have three children who miss him very badly.

Hi Ferbie,

I wouldn't see anything wrong with giving him a quick call letting him know that you miss him and that you're sorry.
Just keep it quick and it might give him "something" to think about.

I tend to always do this myself. I don't like to "drag" arguements as I find the worse they seem to get.
It's not a matter of being right or wrong, I just always say to myself: What would you do if you never saw him again??? Would you regret not telling him your feelings??

I'm saying this because I have learned one thing in my life. I have learned not to wait when I have something to say, it could be too late at times.
My brother was killed in an accident and I have always "regretted" not telling him what I felt and thought of him. (we argued alot!!!)and yet I loved him so deeply.

So if you miss him, tell him!!!! Let him know that the kids miss him too!
Leave the rest up to him.

take care
bb