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how mad should I be?
#2955342 03/17/03 05:26 PM
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My WW has been planning to leave to find what she wants. She finally found a place and we had discussed telling our 10 yr old boy together to help him cope. Today she decided to tell him when I was not there. She told him "we" are having problems and need to be apart for awhile. She is the one with the problem, not me. How upset should I be?
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Gambler,
Another way to look at is that she took the responsibility of telling him.

However, if what she told him is not to your satisfaction, then, just as she did, you can tell him the way you want to.

I don't personally believe in the "we" are having problems so I'm leaving. I think it makes kids feel unsafe, like if they have problems with her or you, you'll leave the kid as well.

Will your son be with you? If so, do all you can to reassure him that you are there for him, and won't leave. This is scary for kids.

It would have been preferable to tell him together, but that is now a done deal, so work with what you have.

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