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I STOPPED USING THIS SITE A YEAR AGO BECAUSE I FELT TOTALLY IGNORED...WELL I WAS RIGHT...I ALWAYS LURK AND MAKE SURE ANYONE THAT POST GETS A RESPONSE....I GUESS I CARE MORE THAN THE REST OF YOU........
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thats too bad you did not find the support you were needing here, this place was a god send to me.
FTR I don't post to alot of posts because It gets a little redunent" I don't have anything to say/add/advise , just wanted to show my support" which is most of the time the case.
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uuummmm...you seem to be upset. What's on your mind? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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Louser, I haven't seen you respond to anyone here. I would suggest you start making some contributions yourself before you complain that others don't.
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"I GUESS I CARE MORE THAN THE REST OF YOU." You've been a member since May 2001. Nearly 2 years. You've posted 232 times in 2 years. I'm sure that each post you made was helpful to someone. Keep up the good work. Pep <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />
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Louser,
I am so sorry that you feel ignored. I did go to your profile and read your other posts. I see that you have dealt with some very difficult issues. Sometimes, one or two good responses are much more helpful than a string of answers that do not help at all. Many times, people don't feel qualified to offer advice on very serious issues and shy away from those threads.
The most important thing is to make communication, even with a few, who can offer a few words of support if nothing else. Please do not compare the number of responses you get and take offense by those numbers, it's not a competition.
I do not know anyone here personally, most do not ever plan to meet each other. I do see people helping each other all the time, and am thankful for this site and the support it offers to so many hurting people.
I am sorry that you do not feel supported here and hope that you will look at this from a new perspective and continue to seek help. Ladysing
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A quote from Mother Teresa.(My hero) </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> "Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I personally thank you for responding to everyone that you took the time to offer your help. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> kk
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louser,
When someone does respond to you, do you reply back to them?
I find that encourages me to follow through with people I've posted to.
Posters in the same kind of situation do tend to recognize and advise each other. It isn't a clique, it's support.
Posters who are unrepentent, justifying affair participants always get a rousing response.
I rarely initiate threads anymore, but in the days that I did, I had them sink off the front page. It happens to most everybody.
I too watch for threads with 0 or 1 response, but sometimes, the words to respond aren't there.
Sorry you've had a disappointing experience.
<small>[ March 18, 2003, 10:03 AM: Message edited by: Lor (Lor) ]</small>
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louser, You started a thread 3 days ago and 5 people responded, but you didn't continue the thread. It doesn't seem like you are being ignored. Maybe you expect replies in a few minutes. Unfortunately it sometimes takes a day or two. -AD
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I apologize for sounding like a brat...just needed to know that someone was there. I try to respond to whatever I feel I can contribute to I just feel very let down when no one responds to me. I suppose it has alot to do with my own self esteem issues & the way I have been manipulated by my xwh. He has always told me that no one cares.
I'll try & be a "big girl".
Thanks!
Lisa
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Louser,
Some of the others made a good point. When a poster does not respond to me, I usually don't waste my time on their thread again. I figure they must not have got anything out of what I said or they would have acknowledged me.
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Lisa, it's OK. Hold on to yourself and give yourself a big hug.
((( LISA )))
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