my husband has been back living with ow for almost 2 weeks and im finding plan b is so hard. i stay on this forum many hours a day just for the support and strength to keep going with it. i fight urges every day to call and tell him i made a mistake in asking him to go. can some of you tell me im doing the right thing and i have a good chance of this waking him up, especially since he left her once already, said it was me he loved. i keep waiting for her to show him the bad traits in herself he talked of when he came back the last time, i guess i was just hoping it would have happened by now. any thoughts ?

Keep busy. Start those projects you've been putting off.

read that book

garden

sew

exercise

get a make-over free at the department store

paint that room a girly delight

write letters you've put off for too long

volunteer in a shelter

take a class

go dancing with your friends

take a mini-vacation you've always wanted to take

((( hugs )))

PLAN B 2 weeks , well she will show true colors it may be to soon , but she will .You are doing the right thing for you and for your M .
If there is a M to be saved it will happen .

The only thing you can control is you , did you do planB to remove the A from your face? well then that was for you .

Now comes the work on you , forget THEN for now pretend you are a teenager and that guy you want don't no what he is missing . What do girls do they get happy with thenselves . ( I know sounds silly but it works)

The more you go out and take care of you then the more and more you will know who you are and what you want , and if someone don't want you then you know it is their lose .

This time for you is very empowering it gives you time to see who you are and if you lost your self to find yourself again ,

Use this to discover things about yourself you where not aware of , like how very strong you are .How worthy you are to be loved and recieve love .(not saying go out with anyone ) Just take notice in the fact that men notice you .

Do something to your body or hair that you always wanted to do but where afraid or thought is was stupid cause you are a married women . Do you have kids ?

I got an eye ring , H always knew I wanted one never thought I would do it . Lost 52LBS and joined a gym H never thought I would do it .
Also just started to be more care free .

Everyone has there thing find yours and enjoy your time alone (like a self help vacation)

When his fog lifts and he comes back you already will know what you want for you and the type of man you want to be with .

And if he can fill those shoes then both of you will be half way there. JMVHO ( I ramble alot sorry) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

You are doing the right thing and I admire your courage (something which I couldnt do yet myself)

Look well after yourself. Does he know why you are doing this, what you want and what he has to do as a basis for reconciliation?

Take care,
N

I've been in Plan B for 2 1/2 months - at first it sucked. Absolutely sucked. I missed him, I thought I'd given up too soon, I didn't know which way was up.

My situation is probably very different from yours (I was firstly the WS, and H then met someone, but doesn't even see that what he is doing is damaging to us, me and more importantly him). However, what I have come to learn is that I am more resilient than I thought. I have actually just started to enjoy myself, go out with friends, call people I haven't spoken to in way too long etc. etc.

Pepper as ever is right as is 3isacrowd. Do all those things you have put off. Keep yourself busy, keep yourself healthy (which is almost more important), excercise, eat right etc.

Believe me, you will come out the other side. Whether or not it will be with your H, only time will tell. For me, sadly, I know it won't be, but I know that one day I will be a better person for it, worthy of finding happiness and love.

Wishing you well from very sunny London.
Lisa