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Last night, WH came home gave me a big hug and kiss (a real kiss, not a peck). He hasn't touched me at all since I discovered the A. Is this just part of the roller coaster ride? Was he just testing my kiss to see if it does anything for him? Did he mean it as "I'm going to really work on our R"? Thousands of scenarios are playing in my mind. I just don't know what to think about this sudden turn around. What do you guys think?
I probably should just take it at face value, but I am probably a little to fragile to do that right now.
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The first think I learned in the early days of Recovery..........don't question his every move or thought. Just take it as it comes and be happy when something like that happens. Store that happiness up and when you are feelingd down about the whole thing......think back to the last nice thing he did......like that kiss. Hope that helps. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Thanks, Miss Priss! I just have a hard time keeping myself from obsessing whenever anything happens, whether it be good or bad since all of this came up. Since the bomb dropped two weeks ago I've had such emotional ups and downs that it makes it almost impossible to not worry about what he said, did, thought with each action he takes. I always wonder if I reacted correctly, did I do it right, was I fairly honest about how I felt without doing and LB. It's so exhausting, I just don't know sometimes what I'm doing. I'm so confused!!
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The roller coaster ride is perfectly normal. Like Miss Priss said, you've got to learn to take happiness from what comes your way and not analyze every little thing. A WS's habits change from day to day during the recovery stage. Today he may be the most loving man on Earth.. tomorrow he may be hateful and bitter. Take the good, survive the bad, and you'll come out ahead in the long run. Now, If I could just follow that advice and stop analyzing everything my WW says/does <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />
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