JG,
Question? How old is the OW is your situation? How old are you and H? As I mentioned before my H was 36 at the time and the psycho OW was 18 (she is 20 now). Something I read in a previous post leads me to believe your H's OW is also very young. Just wondering?

Almost

Jazzey,

I don't get that younger woman thing either. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> Seems stupid to me. I would think the approval of a more experienced woman (in life, that is), would mean more than that of ignorant belief from a near child. (I was 20 when I got married, but my H was only 3 years older and not involved with anyone.)

And I understood about your two DD's. You did a great job of explaining. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Perhaps I didn't do so well, and certainly some details were vague in my mind.

I am very concerned for your DD also. Yes, she wants you out of the picture (really whacked), but if she realizes there's no chance for her in that arrangement, who knows what she'll do?

I concur with you, that after the initial grief period, she should not be pitied. Life goes on, and she has gathered enough wherewithall to disrupt others' lives in terrible ways. Obviously she's no longer grieving her child, or she wouldn't have the time or energy to do what she's doing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I'm so glad that safety is your priority. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I know you'll get the distance you need to live in peace!

Petals

I am having problems too with the OW and my H. If you see my post Husband and GF are wackos. I can't get a PFA, because my life wasn't threatened, but I can file harassement charges which I will do. She was told not to come on this property on March 4th. I just can't believe she had the nerve to come in here.

Jazzey Girl,
Any news to report on the harrassment situation?

Almost

Well let me chime in here and throw in a additional warning.

My W came home 'to reconcile' and be at home with the boys. OM played games, 'trapping' my W in the relationship. One thing he did was take his birth certificate and with blood or a red pen wrote 'DEAD' on it, placed it in the window of his apartment so she would see it eventually several days later after her knocking on his door, which had 'blood' on the door knob. All the while was still seeing the OM on a day to day basis, with gaps between visits. Then one evening, like many a night before, she goes and see's the OM and he assaults her, dragging her into his apartment because she was trying to come home 'within the timeframe that she told me she would go "check" on him, to make sure he was still alive'. Bruised and scraped from the dragging, she went to the PD and filed a report. Later the OM was picked up on a traffic stop he had pending court case and warrant for his arrest on the assault. But, he was released and a TRO was put in place. None the less, W and OM continued to see each other, violating the TRO, as he still played his sick games. One month later OM takes W and son captive for 4 hours where he finally slits his writs because his life is falling apart.. W got away with our S and called the PD. He went to jail and court was set 5 months later, where he spent time in jail awaiting trial. He phoned us from jail, mailed letters and she eventually started seeing him in jail. His conviction was reduced to misdemeanors and he got out of jail 5 months later. Within 3 months, my W left me again. She is still suffering from his sick games.

Just a warning Jazzey, your NOT out of the clear yet. Be safe. Reconciling? Great. Be very careful.

Do a search on my 'old' posts and alot of the games the OM played are posted here. Hope this helps you.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by JazzeyGirl:
<strong>We also found out on my H's b-day that we are going to have another precious baby around Nov-Dec time frame (we think). We are so excited and looking forward to it.
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Jazzey are you preggie? Did I read that right?

JG,
Thanks for the update. I've been checking in pretty regular to see if you'd posted anything new. Congrats on the baby news! That's wonderful. Please let me know how the court proceedings turn out. Thinking of you.

Almost

Jazzy,

Congrats!!!

On the OTHER topic...
Have you considered an alarm system and a very large, loud dog?

<small>[ June 05, 2003, 03:13 AM: Message edited by: Eleonora ]</small>

Hi Jazzy,

You can go to the court and request why the trial has been postponed. But the truth be told it is probably because one or both of the lawyers has a prior commitment. That is the bulk of the reasons why trials and even pre-trials are postponed. I hate to say it but you will need to be patient and hope for the best. Our justice system can be long and tedious. I am still waiting for my court date for the last round of charges against my ex. IT has been well over a year now. Someone else in my support group took four years to finish her final battle with her abusive ex. Sorry for all the delays.

JazzeyGirl,
Just checking in here for the first time in several days. Thanks for the update. Sounds like things are going pretty well for you and hubby. Just curious, what did OW do to violate her probation so quickly? Do you mean that she contacted you guys within just a few hours of her sentencing? Is that what she did? Wow, what nerve! What an idiot! Of course I can certainly relate. It took a full year, two arrests plus a written summons, several court dates, etc. before OW in our case finally left us alone. I think the probation officer may be right. Moving, changing jobs (if possible) may be just what you guys need to get away from that psycho once and for all. Glad things are going well with your pregnancy - a boy, how exciting! Good luck as you continue to recover from this horrendous experience.

Almost