H and I are trying to reconcile, but I don't really believe he has ceased his relationship, at least via telephone, with OW. How can I be assured he has? This has been an off-and-on affair for six years, of which he really only admitted about 6 months. I really would like to save our marriage, but I am always so suspicious. What exactly is a "no contact" letter? Is there a form on this site? Any other ideas? Thanks.

A no contact letter is one made out by you and your husband to the other woman. In it, your husband is to state, that he will end all contact. No letters, no e-mails, no cellphones, no phones, no meeting. He is to state that he is working on his marriage, and for her to not contact him. He will not answer any of her calls.

It is to be short and to the point. Then it is signed by the two of you. Then you two drop it together in the mailbox.

We did this, but my husband turned right around and called the other woman, and said he is sending this out and to ignore it. He continued on talking to the otherwoman for about 6 months.

So it will work if he is committed. If he is not committed, it is a big fat lie. Just like what my husband did to me. All was a lie. And that is where I don't have much trust in my husband. Cause he continued with his lies and still lied to me recently.

I actually, feel the no contact letter is not that much good. But it is a warning to the other person that everything will stop. So take it for what you feel you will get out of it. I thought my husband was being honest with me. And I was lied to. So decide for yourself if this is what you and your husband want. And move from there. But he has to stop all contact with the other person. Nothing at all. Good luck.