My W and I cannot come to an agreement regarding our son. She keeps claiming that she and I cannot resolve issues. I keep thinking that it is her who is not willing to compromise if she does not get it her way.
This is the pattern/dance. An issue comes up, we both disagree on how to resolve it and neither one of us is willing to give in. So far, since this started, I've been the one who tries to find a compromise or finally gives in. Since she started provoking me what she does is just tell me "I have to go" and hangs up on me when I try to offer her a compromise. And, usually, the way she does it is she accuses me of something that's not true and when I try to defend myself she says "I have to go" and hangs up.
So, why the title of this topic? Because tonight I called her thinking we could compromise on who picks up our son from school but she's not willing to even negotiate so she ended up hanging up on me with the usual pattern. She then called our mutual friend to verify something and this is what my W told her that tells me she is still in the thickest of fogs:
"For the record, I did not leave UC for the OM."
Mutual friend replied, "Thank you for correcting me but that's the way it looks like on the outside."
W said "the M was over years ago so I did not leave him for OM."
Mutual friend: "Technically, you are still married to him."
Back to me and my comments now...
The marriage was over years ago??? We put a deposit down to build a brand new house a month before she met OM. Last year's Valentines Day she had a surprise for me after she had not given me anything in the last few years. When we moved to TX, she was "working" on the M.
Is this the lie they build themselves that the M was over so their A is not really an A? She actually told me many times she was not having an affair because our M was invalid and so there never was a M and yet she contradicts herself because she also says that the M was over years ago.
<small>[ March 25, 2003, 11:22 PM: Message edited by: utterlyconfused ]</small>
