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#2957067 03/27/03 02:05 PM
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What would be the behavioral signs that the woman I am with really does Love me and is not just "charming" me?

#2957068 03/27/03 02:43 PM
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I think if your W is going out at night and coming back disheveled at 3AM every night, then that might be a behavoral sign of problems.

I think it might be helpful to talk about what it is that might be triggering your gut that your W may be faking it.

Your question seemed pretty short on background info to really say anything that wasn't "duh" obvious or just really superficial.

#2957069 03/27/03 03:21 PM
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I guess I am trying to better understand how a woman thinks and acts. The woman is my wife. We have been married for more than 10 years. We have children and currently live under the same roof, but I would not say we really share our lives. As far as I know neither of us has been unfaithful and even though she might say she Loves me, she does things that make me think otherwise. Do you have any insight here?

#2957070 03/27/03 08:22 PM
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Do a search on this site...somewhere there is a thread about 50 signs of a cheating spouse or something along those lines.

A few things might be no big deal, but if you go down the list and find your spouse acting like the items that are listed, that would be your answer.

A puzzle is comprised of many small pieces. Your job is to find the pieces and put them together to see the big picture.

#2957071 03/27/03 11:12 PM
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S33,

Here's the list:

50 Indicators of Infidelity.
1. A sudden upturn in their demeanor or outlook on life.
2. Constantly late.
3. More possessive toward wallet, pocket calendar or briefcase.
4. Comes home more often with alcohol on breath.
5. Starts talking about getting together with old friends they haven't seen in years.
6. Starts shopping for new clothes.
7. Starts taking a renewed interest in their appearance.
8. Starts keeping an overnight bag in their car or office, ostensibly for a workout or a game of tennis.
9. Orders dishes or new household items never ordered before.
10. Does not look at other women/men as much as they used to.
11. Starts working late and on holidays and weekends.
12. Express opinions on subjects that they never had an interest in.
13. Takes a new interest in anticipated schedule.
14. Encourages you to visit parents or friends alone.
15. They give you gifts that show a new level of taste or insight about the opposite sex.
16. Car is kept free of paraphernalia belonging to you or the kids.
17. Starts attending extended seminars or conventions.
18. Start using new words and phrases.
19. At odd hours they start remembering things they forgot to do at the office.
20. They suggest that you open up separate checking accounts.
21. Often forget to wear wedding ring.
22. Takes the dog for much longer walks.
23. Makes more phone calls late at night.
24. A marked change of attitude towards secretary, colleagues or friends.
25. Suddenly takes up new hobbies or friends that take them out of the house in the evenings and weekends.
26. They talk about a movie they've seen but you have not.
27. They insist on answering the phone.
28. They call out a different name in sleep.
29. Smell of a different soap from the brand at home and/or you smell freshly showered at 1.00am.
30. They care about how breath smells. New mints, gum, etc. found around house.
31. Uses pre-paid calling card/pager/cell phone for the first time ever.
32. Loses a lot of weight and seems proud of new body.
33. Saddest list item is: change in die-hard pro-life feelings on abortion.
34. Gut feeling. The biggest indicator of an affair is just feeling that it is so.
35. Juvenile behavior and music interests!!!
36. Uses more kid slang than the kids!!!!!
37. Knows all the new pop singers and has CD's.
38. When they lose stuff they accuses you of gettting into their "stuff"....
39. Uses the ATM way too much!
40. All of a sudden, their attitude about people who cheat changes, e.g., "we shouldn't judge because we don't know their whole story."
41."It wasn't a dinner date - it was just a way of saying thank you for carpooling"
42."I never lied about being married - she never asked me, so I just didn't bring it up"
43. Grocery shopping and other excuses to get out "alone."
44.The one difference is that my Wife wants our kids to like the other person because in the back of her head she thinks she will be with him. Very sickening. !!!!!!!!!!!
45. Carries toothpaste, toothbrush, mouthwash at all times.
46. When other person is co-worker, can't wait to get to work each day .
47. Becomes great friends with people going through divorce.
48. Defends other who are/have/will cheat(ed/ing).
49. Distances themselves from those with strong (any) moral values.
50. Gets "coded" pager messages at all times of the day and night

Semper Fi,
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