Sorry, but I don't know how to do the sig thing. Please look at last topic.

Since I found out that the W is registered here, I probably need to be a little less detaled in my posts.

Would you great people please give my some ideas as to my latest Q's. Also, how to post here when WS's are also looking here.

Most who do not want to be identified change their name.

But some have used it to communicate their feelings and desires about their relationships. And some have used MB as a sounding board for their innermost beliefs KNOWING their WS's are looking in. And some here have continued their problems here too.

It is up to you.

Some here have asked this question in the past and others have answered this: "If one of the requirements of Harley is for total honesty, why should it bother you if the spouse is reading your MB posts?" I personally do not think I would like my X to read my stuff, as it is has often been outpourings of the LB kind....and Harley does not advocate that.

I believe we need a safe place to go to vent about this stuff, so we do not make things worse at home. To stop the LB's. To feel safe telling our view of a situation, without denials of the WS. So if you have been found here, you may need to create a new identity, or move to a new site that ofers similar suppot.

I will be happy to give you the address to such a site if you need it, if you write to the addy below. Then delete any and all references which may contain that address.

I say this stuff because I have seen the DAMAGE that can be done here on this board if the WS discovers it. It means that the BS has no safe place to go.

Try writing to me.

Love and light,

Jacky

jackinoz16@hotmail.com

It's not that I don't want my W to find out how I feel. I just need to talk to people who can help me through this mess. And if they give me ideas or plans, I dont want W to know about them.

Change your name Bilbo. Sounds like you need to be here more than ever and get help from old timers.
Those who have similar experiences, worked the plans and were successful.
Somehow, all I can think is there must be a way to get your W to work with you on saving the marriage. I've heard many that were a disaster and yet, turned out to be wonderful marriages with counseling.
She sounds like she's totally in a fog or fantasyland!
Getting to OM is definitely a good idea. An A out in open is less tantalizing! Stall, refuse, do everything you can to hold off on divorce and separation.
God bless and keep you, LouLou