I think the last time I posted my H had told me that he would not go to counseling and he wanted a D. (That was about 2 months ago, I think.) Things have changed significantly..for the better.
About a week after he told me that I tried one more time asking him that if he wasn’t 100% sure he wanted a D if he would please just go to one session. I told him that after that if he still wanted a D then fine I wouldn’t try anything anymore.
He went and the counselor was really straight forward with us. It was very hard but good all at the same time. My H had never talked about it before so he got a lot out. He agreed to a month of counseling. That was January-February.
Moving forward to now— Our M is getting stronger each day. We have learned a lot and our communication with each other is much better. I don’t post a lot here but do read a lot to see how all of you are. We are doing things together and actually having a lot of fun! Imagine that!
Thanks to all of you who “kicked my butt” a few times in my posts! Especially the ones where I felt I wasn’t trying to change my H’s feelings but you guys felt that I was.(JL really let me have it about that!) THANKS for helping me to see the reality of that.
I feel I am definitely a more patient person. Also I’m learning a lot about my actions as well. Being the outgoing person that I naturally am I never took my H’s feelings into consideration when I would flirt or say things or whatever. Now I find myself thinking of how my H would feel about something before I will do or say it. I know that he comes first (along with our kids) and I will make that a priority for the rest of my life.
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