I was wondering if anyone knows how to trace someone's activites on a comp. My H's ex-GF just wrote him today and I'm wondering if there's a way to forward every message he sends her to my account. I have his account password, but I know he'll probably try to get rid of any trace of an e-mail before I can see it (too late though, I already know she wrote him back and now I'm sure they'll begin corresponding) Does anyone know? He's overseas so it's not like we're on the same computer. Or is there a way to automatically make every message go into the "sent items" folder (he has hotmail). Thanks. I know I seem like a snoop, but I've seen others ask questions like this here, so I feel it'd be a safe place to ask...

And if anyone could give me tips on tracking activites in general (on the comp.), I'd appreciate it, for when he comes back. Thanks!

<small>[ April 04, 2003, 05:27 PM: Message edited by: marriedgirl ]</small>

marriedgirl,

I don't know how to do it remotely, but I would go into his hotmail account and change his prefs to "save outgoing mail" if you can.

I would like to know about that in hotmail also.

For outlook I think u can create a rule but maybe the mail will appear as fowarded so it will post a huge flag on u'r H's eyes... hence not a smart thing to do.

Also if u share the same computer at home u can install spyware very good stuff now on the market, but be prepared on what u read... And beleive me you are never going to be prepared.. so it's your choice anyway.

If u need help on spyware software let me know.

Yes, please tell me anything you can. On spyware or whatever else- I know nothing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> All I know how to do is check the history, and apparently that can be pretty easily erased. Thank you!!

Thanks Jazzygirl.

I have a spyware, sometimes I don't get too it quick enough and the more recent overwrites the older. H cleans out his Temp folders every so often, but not daily.

Try this http://www.iambigbrother.com/

This is how I caught my wife. It is free to try. I used the Keylogger. Pretty simple to use.

ATN

MG- I don't know of any way to do it remotely. If you can get your hands on his computer there are plenty of options then.

My W says there is no way you can do that in hotmail (putting every email in the sent items folder). Good luck, glad to see you are still around (Ihaven't had time to read your long post in EN)

JazzyGirl, if you could please edit your reply here so we don't give away all the secrets to the WS's that would be great. MG, if you want more pointers you can email me and I will tell you off-line.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by JazzeyGirl:
<strong>Still trying to save it....I thought this was a forum to support and help each other. Not to have "secrets" from WS. How ridiculous.
J</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Jazzey- You are right it is a forum for support and help. I don't however want an WS's that are still going with the A to know how to get around computer snooping. There are few ways the BS's can expose the A and computer snooping is one of them. If we tell all WS's how to protect themselves on the computer what do we have left? Asking them? Of course they will lie.

If any BS's want to know about snooping I will tell them what I know but I will not support and protect an A by telling any WS's how it is done.

Thank you for editing, no hard feelings.

Automatic, hard to detect, leaves no trace and forwards every email sent or received on the computer it's installed on to the email address of your choice:

Spectorsoft eBlaster
www.spectorsoft.com

matilde,

Offering a valid suggestion for anyone needing to keep track of emails coming and going from hotmail and msn accounts.

MSN8 allows for parental controls. These can be used and not just exclusively for children that have hotmail or MSN accounts. It will allow for ALL emails coming and going from those accounts to have duplicates sent to the account administrator's email address too. If I am not mistaken, it does not "warn" that a copy of the email is being routed to another account. Even when signing into the account from another computer, it will be implemented. It doesn't have to be the one computer at home.

You can sign up for MSN8 without needing to use them for your ISP. The first 2 months are free and it is maybe 8.95 monthly after that.

We installed MSN8 on Sunday and I just noticed this feature today...figured it might help when people are suspecting spouses of wayward activity.

committed

<small>[ April 08, 2003, 12:43 PM: Message edited by: committedandlovingit ]</small>

Bumping for Matilde!!

Yoo Hoo Matilde!!!

Where are you???

Here's a couple of thoughts:

1) Why not tell your H that you know that his exGF and he are emailing and that you are uncomfortable about it? Perhaps request that he not email her? (Seems like the honest approach to me.) As I said to my H the other day, why "test" people and let them fail (ie. let your H keep emailing her and monitor it to see if they "cross the line"), when you can point out what they are doing to hurt you in the first place, and perhaps prevent them from "crossing the line"?

2) You could do something very simple if you choose not to tell him. The next time he gets an email from her in hotmail, choose "block and delete"! He'll never be able to get another email from her, unless she uses a new address!

Just my 2 cents worth.

Jen