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hey people,
I am involved with a man that is driving me crazy..I am also married to a man that drove me crazy already. Moved out..met OM..then lost job..had to move back to husband. Still seeing OM but things are not the same. Think he is wanting to end it but I think I wanna end it first..when I try to get Om to talk about it..he just wont say a word. Says he loves me but never wants to get married again..I dont really want to marry OM anyway..but the fact that it is out of the question bugs me..help?
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chosen_paths,
With all dues respect we are here to help each other to save marriage. What do you need help on ?. Chasing OM ?, you are in the wrong website and go away.
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chosen_paths -
I think you should definitely post on another site as this is a site dedicated to building and keeping marriages.
If by chance you reconsider, and want to choose a path to repair your marriage - by all means - please come back.
Best of luck.
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well..judging by the amount of posts..doesnt look like it is working for either one of you..your rude.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by chosen_paths: <strong>well..judging by the amount of posts..doesnt look like it is working for either one of you..your rude.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am here to give back what I have blessed with ... judging from your post you are a stray from TOW <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . -rh-
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Are the replies to this thread what was "justified" in the recent past as "not sugercoating"?
Or is it just something else completely? I'm thinking, "what the heck" right now on so many levels. Is MB really about excluding folks in Chosen_path's situation? If it is, it wasn't obvious to me - and I'll shut up.
Maybe I am I just completely falling for a troll that others saw right through.
Chosenpath, I'm glad that you are aware enough to see that something is "off" about your situation. I don't know if you'll ever be back to look into it further, but maybe you will.
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Chosen,
At the risk of you noting I have more posts than Redhat & Alberta put together...MarriageBuilders principles do work to restore troubled marriages, if such a restoration is possible.
MB doesn't promote, encourage or support affairs.
You are married and living with your husband, so the support and advice you get here will be directed toward ending the affair and working on your marriage.
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I think you are calling me ... I do not beleive this web site is for supporting breaking M. English is not my first language but she is looking for support on how to handle OM since he is driving her crazy. Please check on her first post on plan A/B. She doesn't want to save M ...
What is the different between MB site and TOW site ?. If you feel that we should help this WW to chase her OM and dump her husband ... I think my service is no longer needed here and I will be glad go pull out weed in my garden instead.
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Gosh - I didn't think I was being rude at all!
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Surely this is a troll. Otherwise, to come to a website called Marriage Builders and ask for advice for her illicit affair would indicate greater problems that the one stated.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Alberta: <strong>Gosh - I didn't think I was being rude at all!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Not you, they want my neck for a long time. However even at that part of my body my skin is very thick too ... LOL !!! cheer up ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> This is a public access site even it is privately financed. You just have to dust it up and move on to the one that needs help and wants help. I just have to reply to a cheap shot. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> -rh-
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redhat, I just love you to death! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
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chosenpath - what you are doing is adulterous. God sees you sinning, and to ask about us to help you while you are seeing OM, and then being married to your hsuband. You definintely have a problem. YOu are in an affair, and do you think what you are asking is right. Should you be seeing both your OM and your husband. You have committed sin, and continue committing sin, and seems you see nothing wrong with what you are doing.
This site is for building marriages, not having affairs. Unless you are one of those justifying your affiar. Which is a sin.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by chosen_paths:
<strong>hey people,
I am involved with a man that is driving me crazy..I am also married to a man that drove me crazy already. Moved out..met OM..then lost job..had to move back to husband. Still seeing OM but things are not the same. Think he is wanting to end it but I think I wanna end it first..when I try to get Om to talk about it..he just wont say a word. Says he loves me but never wants to get married again..I dont really want to marry OM anyway..but the fact that it is out of the question bugs me..help?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">CP,
Welcome to Marriage Builders. Now in response to your question, I would like to ask for further clarification.
What is bugging you, the challenge or something else?
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End the relationship with the OM immediately. Then figure out what you want in life. I myself would try to work on my marriage first. Try to give 100%, that would mean confessing your affair too. If things don't work out with your husband, after a full try, then you can leave with your head held high. The thirsd party needs to be removed first. Look at the stat, your relationship with the OM has a 5% chance of survival. If you are unhappily married in the end, end the marriage and after you have been divorced for a year, then start looking for love. If you cannot do this, the problem is within you. I do not mean to be blunt, but how much pain do you want to cause others. Now you have hurt your H, Yourself, OM and OM wife-this is not right. You reap what you sow-sorry for the typos I am in a hurry. Relationships based on deceite do not last.
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