Fighter and Distressed,<P>Thanks for your replies. <P>Fighter - good to hear from you. How is recovery coming? Good advice. I think it would be great if we could get some counseling in during the next few months before he leaves town. <P>Distressed- Thank you for the kudos. Your advice was very helpful to me (notice I plagarized your lines? hope that's OK). I know it is only a small boundary but it was soooo hard to stick to. When he called back I really wanted to change my mind because he is so darn persuasive - but I realize that is one of the "issues" in the marriage. I tend to take a stand - only to back down when H confronts me. No more. I love him but won't lose me in the process...<P>Please keep me in your thoughts over Thanksgiving and pray that I can stay strong as we spend a week together (the longest stretch of time together since he moved out in August!). If this relationship is to heal I can't tolerate any more false starts.<P>Thanks,<BR>Starpony