I will sum this up so you will not get bored. My husband went for training for 2 weeks (a month apart) came home very distant, saying he had been unhappy for 3 years and never said anything, and basically he was going to be happy...I was shocked because of the many times i expressed my unhappiness (due to his abscence(hunting and sports)no family time or with our daughter)he always agreed with me. I was looking for an answer. I found the cell bill with 30-40 min calls to Arkansas (said it was ronnie a guy he met in training). He stopped the detailed billing after that the bill is in his name). He went to arkansas for a hunting trip with Ronnie (while our marriage was falling apart this was the one thing that was going to make him happy). Come to find out ronnie is tiffany...tiffany has a boyfriend that apparently she was not going to leave for him (i can only assume). He came home after being gone three weeks (one in arkansas and the rest at his moms) He went back to Arkansas two weeks later for the weeked. He said he did everything he could not to think about us. When he came home he was just there..still talking to tiffany every day (She was coming up as Ronnie on his cell so i called the number. Thats when i found out there was no ronnie) I feel like I should not be in this marriage anymore after all of this. If he really loved me and was unhappy i feel like he should have tried to work it out before calling it quits basically. I dont know why he is really even home. I did not find out that there was not a ronnie until after he came home. So he came home and was still talking to her everyday (just friends) she is in another state. Could this be an emotional affair?

It is probably a physical and emotional affair. As for what to do, click on the link in my signature line

Hi MLF please give us more information. After you spoke to Tiffany and confronted your H, did he admit or still deny? If he admitted...what did he admitt to? How long have you been married? Did you actually speak to Tiffany? Did she know your H was married? Did she agree to no contact with your H? Does her boyfriend know?

If he was meeting her in person for that amount of time...sorry to say it is very unlikely that it was just an EA.

You really need to read up on this site as quickly as you can. It will give you tips on how an A should end. How to talk to you H in a non love busting way, etc.

The two of you really need to talk to get to the bottom of why you'be both been unhappy...please read the questionnaire section of this website ASAP...especially Emotional Need section.

Keep reading here and posting and we'll do our best to help you through!