I'm the WW and I'm confused... and scare to make the wrong decision... right now i'm leaving alone and I had broke up with my A and me and my h been basically on plan A well that's me but him basically not even trying to look for me to come back or anything...So now A is married as well and it's not leaving with his wife... they had a lot of issues going on and so on... He called me on Saturday night he told me he was sure that he doesn't want to go back with his wife and he ask me if I want to move with him??? and I said "NO" I told him that He doesn't know what he wants and I don't want him to be playing with my feelings... The problem is that he had told me that our relationship will not go any where and we should end... so we did... and I was hurt and everything, I didn't call him at all... He kept calling me... I didn't answered, I wanted to be strong and stop that A... I was starting to think that may be that's how everything should end up, and I was feeling back on track againg with my life... And when I finally answered one of his phone calls <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> , he tells me how he feels and that he wants me to move to his house... I say no... but in reality I want to be with him... and be happy and have a nice relationship with him... 'cause I have feelings for him... But I know my husband will get mad at me... and He will not let my daughter stay with me... since the guy I love is his nephew... I don't know what to do... "Cause I Love My baby girl... She is my princess... and I don't want to make things worst....
Please help me out..... I need help...

KHDZ, thats nice that you have "feelings" for the OM, but does your daughter have any "feelings" about losing her mother and her family as she knows it? Or does she need a mother? Does your husband have any "feelings" about your affair with his own nephew? I would be thinking about what is best for your daughter, and moving in with a flaky guy who will treat you the same way as he treated his current wife, is really not the best thing for your daughter or yourself.

You have made some bad mistakes here and you can either continue to make them and further destroy your life, your family's and the OM's family, or you can start doing the right thing right now and cut your losses.

I would start with ending all contact with the OM. Go apologize to your H for all the horrible things you have done to him. Maybe some day he can forgive you for this horrible betrayal with his own nephew.

KHDZ,

You said it yourself. OM is knocking your life off track. It is hard to go to no contact, especially when you want to be with OM, but you know what is most likely best for you and your daughter. And you've seen what even one phone call will do to you.

Would you consider changing your numbers? It will get easier if he can keep ringing your phone and tempting you to answer. By doing little things like this, they can add up to a lot.

Couldn't tell where your H is on all this, but maybe you would share some on that.

Thanks for your advice....
I really need help... It's not easy for what I'm going through... I'm confuse... sometimes I want to go back to my husband and work on my marriage, and sometimes I feel that I want to be with OM... It is so hard to cut this off, and trust me I'm trying so hard... But there are days that I'm strong and I don't care about OM... But there are days that I miss him so much, that I only want to run to his arms...
What happen with my husband now is that he let me go, he is not doing anything to rescue our marriage, I know I have the problem, but everything started 'cause I didn't have any affection from him,and he was focus on his brother and his family not me... then OM came he gave me all I was needing... But It's just like the wrong person in the wrong moment... I'm not selfish at all... I like to be honest, and that's why I left my husband, 'cause I told him that what I did was wrong and I didn't deserve to be with him, not matter how different we are I know what I did is wrong... Now I'm trying to fight with what I feel... and go back on track... I just don't know if I should try to work on my marriage... or just think about it as part of my past... I know is hard to take OM out of my heart but If you guys have any ideas that can help please let me know... I'm trying... trust me...