Okay... so the title isn't that big, UNLESS you know of my story and current situation.
Firstly, I WAS WRONG to approach H. I KNOW it. But I did it anyways. On an emotional point of view, is was a HUGE breakthrough, as I felt no fear (even though my heart was racing more than I anticipated). Of course, we were in public too. And I have never had any doubts that he'd 'keep his cool' (so to speak) in PUBLIC. Privately, is another matter.
I went out of my way to talk to H. I was on my way to the bank, and saw him pull into the mall en route. So I detoured, and walked into the bar/restaurant where he was going. I then approached him, and told him that he should leave, b/c he's violating his bail conditions. He answered me saying that he was there on 'company business', and therefore wasn't breaking anything. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Hmmm... he delivers AUTO PARTS, and to the best of my knowledge, RESTAURANTS don't need those.... especially when he was PICKING UP HIS LUNCH (along with the lunch for some of the guys at work). <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
Then we both left.
I should also add that TECHNICALLY, that particular restaurant is within a one block radius of the matrimonial home, and according to H's bail conditions, he can't be there.
I called the police, and spoke with an officer to ask his advice on the situation. He gave me more specifics on how the bail conditions work, and told me that I was in the "wrong", however, in no way did I do anything illegal. (my question to the officer was based on H's conditions to have no contact or association with me, as I forgot to mention the 1 block radius one).
Ironically, when I checked my voicemail tonight, there was a message from my lawyer, asking whether or not I would like a "restraining order" in my application for next week's meeting. I responded that I'm really not sure, b/c in all reality, I just don't know. I've asked that she decide what would be best, considering the upcoming criminal trial (for H's child porn possession).
The GOOD news in all of this, is that I survived the meeting with H! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> I'm not as concerned as I had been about next Tuesday's court appearance, should he show up (it's a settlement conference before a judge, but not an actual hearing).
And then of course, there's the stuff that all BS's hate to love to hear....
H looked TERRIBLE!!! So much for losing weight from depression... he's GAINED a LOT this time (whereas I've lost at least 15 pounds since I last saw him in December). The best way to describe his appearance is "frumpy". He is most definitely NOT someone I am attracted to. In fact, he looked like a street bum, IMO.
Overall, it was a good experience. I only hope that it won't affect too much as far as everything else goes (court-wise). I'll let you all know about that next week. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Karen
