Been reading all these posts about in-laws and people you would consider close in your life-I am
the WS, still married, been to MC and IC for the past year-my H&I are healing, trying to restore
our M-however his family/my family are not forgiving (some are/some aren't)specifically what
can I say to my MIL of 20yrs,haven't spoke to her now in almost 2 yrs-this is not healthy and uncomfortable to say the least-I guess (from what
I'm told)she wants to talk to me and go on with a R.She (MIL)now knows her son betrayed me in the past as well but never had an ongoing R with someone outside of me.My sister, same thing, I miss her (my parents are passed on)I only have her-her&H have lived an"impeccable"life with their
3 kids-really no serious problems like what I have gone through-she's critical of me and pretends like nothing ever happened.She got somewhat involved (sort of by accident):while on vacation in Hawaii, my sis&family were staying next hotel down from the OMM&W,(OMM knew they were there from me)they walk down the beach and
(what a coincidence!)there's M's (that's me)sister-well anyway, OMM's W(who had been drinking)proceeds to spew horrible things about me-as if it were all me (her H is innocent)my sister, was
a)repulsed,that this W is drunk&neurotic
b)what the hell is going on?
c)leave "that man" alone he's a liar
Well, of course my Sister calls me from vacation-I
felt I needed to clear her up on a few facts-mainly,that OMM had not stopped calling me on the cell his whole vacation(7x's one night)none of which I answered-sent me flowers at work 3days in a row. It's been a year, my Sister still is "wounded"that I "wrecked"their vacation--I told her she was judgmental and unforgiving-haven't spoke to her in months.
Will these relationships ever be restored-my own
H who was hurt/betrayed the most has let go of the past and wants our lives to be better now-
What to do??
<small>[ May 02, 2003, 09:14 AM: Message edited by: claireb. ]</small>