I feel a little obsessive here, having posted about this in two other places ("in recovery" and "divorcing/divorced"), but GQII gets the most visitors, so here goes:

If you are in Plan B, can you answer these questions for me?

1) How long did you do plan A?
2) How long have you been doing plan B?
3) How long do you plan to go on doing plan B?
4) Were there any false recoveries yet?
5) What will you do if plan B doesn't "work"?

Curious Jen

Hello Jen,I too am very impatient and want the results fast. But I learn not to rush.Each situation is different, so time spent on a plan may be somehow irrelevant in your case but here goes:
1. In plan A for about six months, some LB, but not much.
2. In plan B for 4 weeks.
3. I plan to be in plan B for as long as it takes the WW to make up her mind, or I get tired, lose the remaining love for her and file.
4. No false recoveries yet, but reality hit her hard (found out from some mutual friends).
5. For the record: "Plan B does work!!!" If it doesn't bring the WS back, at least you already learn how to live without her/him. You don't get any more "triggers" that will send you on a roller coaster ride. There is no more guessing at 3AM what does "when this ends" mean. Did she mean the A or M? No more negative information coming from WS that destroys you mentally. All responsibility for the mess is transferred to them. You're just an observer. If they don't get out of fog, so be it. Six months of no contact with WS will do wonders to you. At least you won't get hurt for as long as plan B is running. The secret is to stick with it. Don't slide back. The more you're in plan B, the better it reflects on you.

Take care of yourself,

BigStar

If it'll make you feel better, here are my answers:

1) How long did you do plan A? - 12 months
2) How long have you been doing plan B? - 4 months
3) How long do you plan to go on doing plan B? - N/A
4) Were there any false recoveries yet? - No
5) What will you do if plan B doesn't "work"? - well, you know the answer to this...

Having said that, Jen, only you, what you feel, your circumstances, and your timeline are important. I mean, it makes no sense to Plan A for 1 month, or Plan B for 2 weeks, it's not enough time, but only you can define the length of these for yourself. And if you do them with the desire and intent to "get your H to do something", they won't work no matter HOW long you do them.

Jen:

1) How long did you do plan A?
Just under 6 months

2) How long have you been doing plan B?
About 2 months.

3) How long do you plan to go on doing plan B?
I had planned on at least a year, but got thrown back into Plan A instead.

4) Were there any false recoveries yet?
There was one false recovery while in Plan A. On a threat of Plan B, my wife promised to end the affair. That only lasted for a couple weeks, and I discovered renewed contact a couple weeks after that.

5) What will you do if plan B doesn't "work"?
Thankfully, I never had to answer that. We've been in recovery for almost five years now...