I know some of you have worse problems than this. I was just needing some advice from someone that had to "get over it". When me and my husband was dating he cheated on me.

He got drunk (he still says she had to have slipped him something) and slept with her. This is the hard part, we just made love about 1 hour before that. He says he doesn't know what happened. In fact after he cried, alot. He said he loved/loves me so much, and I just couldn't understand why he did that.

Yes I did end up marrying him. He is 45 and has only now slept with 3 women in his whole life (his X, me and that women). So that was really out of character for him. He told me everything. This happened 8 months ago. I am still holding one to it.

We have such a great sex life. But sometimes in the middle of it or after I have to fight those thoughts from coming in.

If he was totally and deeply in love and did that, what will happen when the passion dies? Someone please help, I can't stand the pictures that run through my head.

Discouraged, if his actions were totally out of normal for him than why are you worrying? Just make sure you both meet eachothers emotional needs (which you can read about from the "concepts" page) and you will be fine.

As far as the images? Now that is another story. Does he know you are plagued with those thoughts? If not, tell him. You need 100% honesty in your M. Find out what causes those images to come to mind and avoid it for now. If it is sex, than either avoid it for now or tell him when you are having a tough time and he should be helpful and respectful.

I wish I could offer more advice but I too am newly married and just starting to recover from my wifes A.

Good luck.