Ok now what do I do? I have been talking to someone on the internet for the past week and I met him tonight, just to go out and have a few drinks together. Well he is the a very nice guy and he doesn't like to drink much at all. Not like my WH that is an alcoholic. He is an OR nurse for the past 13 years, good looking and we really hit off. Two hours flew by, we had alot to talk about and got along great. He is seperated too and he is the same age as me. He has no children from his marriage, he was only married for 3 years, but I didn't ask what happened in his marriage and neither did he. I felt really comfortable around him and not nervous.

<small>[ May 22, 2003, 01:49 AM: Message edited by: goldielocks109 ]</small>

SLOW DOWN!!! It certainly is good to have our needs met and to be treated well is what we all deserve but what plan or stage are you in right now?

L.

My H and I are seperated since December (read other posts), he came back 2x's since then and the last he left was April 1st. Before he left Apirl 1st he was back home for a months but went back to the OW and we used to go out together when he was living with her. Now we don't, she had met his parents. He says he is happy, but has not filed for divorce and neither have I because I had to pay my lawyer$1000.00 for our child support hearing. And I haven't bee working because of an accident and now I just got released to go back to work, but my position is gone so I have to look for a new job. I know my H isn't happy with the OW, he has gained weight and won't stop drinking and he says he has been getting chest pains and doesn't care. But I see no sight in him coming back home to me or the kids. He won't see the kids unless she is with them to which I tell him no it's not right. Matter of fact it's are youngest kids b-day Friday and he isn't coming, he said him and his gf are having a party for him Sunday up his moms house and the gf is getting a cake made for him. My youngest son said I will go as long as his gf is not there. Believe me I am taking it slow, we went out and talked and that is it, I'm not rushing into anything.

goldielocks109 ,

I'd say: Give him a copy of "His Needs Her Needs" and tell him to work on his marriage and RUN!!!!!!!!!!

I'm sure you know where this could "lead to" don't you????? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

bb

I too had a short lived relationship with someone. It started very inocently over the internet, but became very dangerous in a few weeks. I had to stop it FAST.
Although in separation, her husband was trying to reconcile. I couldn't have lived with myself if I had continued. I almost became the OM myself. Yuk!!!

Gee,

Isn't there a term here at MB for people that date or see people in an emotional or physical way outside of the marriage?. Oh yeah..."WS"!

Just because your H decided to become a WS doesn't make it right for you to become one. By dating, you have just shown that you value the marriage no more then he does.

If you choose to date OM, then at least file for D first. Get the legal wheels spinning. So long as you are married and making no effort to end the M, dating other men labels you a "WS".

jmho
ba109

editing to add:
I also think that by dating, you also have given up every right to complain about your H's actions outside of the marriage. Again, jmho.

<small>[ May 22, 2003, 07:27 AM: Message edited by: ba109 ]</small>