Hi, it is me again. I was the one that taped into my husband's voicemail and heard his secretary say that she loves him. He works Mon-Fri in a different state.

I confronted him and played it for him. He got violent because he said I spied on him. He said she loves him but there has been no affair. I asked him why she would love him. He said he does not know. He swore on our 22yr old son's life that there is no affair.. I asked him to quit, he said you do not walk out on a Vice President's job. Am I stupid to believe him?

I am so unhappy and do not want to go on. Besides having the physical problems from a stroke 2 years ago, I have to deal with this.

Please help me get the courage to do whatever is necessary.

Thank you!

I'm going through something similar (infidelity_) and am walking an emoitional tight rope...I can't give you any sage advice...but wanted you to know someone read your posting, and is thinking of you.
SF

Hi April-

I also heard a woman telling my husband she loved him on his vmail too... that ws almost a year ago...+ there was another woman too... ugh.

I think he can get a new secretary?

I also think you two might want counseling, quick, but be careful with who. The Harley's are very good.... via the phone... look on this site for their numbers. Many counselors will encourage you to leave the bum, or just for the two of you to be happy individually.... whatever???

You can save your M, but it will be hard work. I am sorry for what you have found out. My h is not yet the same man I used to love, I do not know what is going on and why. I am very tired, but there is hope.

Hugs and Hope. Honey

please explain violent...

if you are in any type of danger you must leave and be safe...no matter what...

You are not stupid...but do not believe him....

You spied because knowledge is better than the unknown...

do not get caught up in powerstruggles over the snooping...

what does violent mean to you?

ARK

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Honey:
<strong>Hi April-

I also heard a woman telling my husband she loved him on his vmail too... that ws almost a year ago...+ there was another woman too... ugh.

I think he can get a new secretary?

I also think you two might want counseling, quick, but be careful with who. The Harley's are very good.... via the phone... look on this site for their numbers. Many counselors will encourage you to leave the bum, or just for the two of you to be happy individually.... whatever???

You can save your M, but it will be hard work. I am sorry for what you have found out. My h is not yet the same man I used to love, I do not know what is going on and why. I am very tired, but there is hope.

Hugs and Hope. Honey</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">