I was reading another post where you wished you had been tougher in the beginning.
I wanted to ask you about this, because my reaction to the A was largely apologetic, which seemed to empower her to point the finger at me and decide what a terrible husband I've been and wonder if she ever really loved me. I know this is her shifting focus from herself.
Up until now, and MB, I'd spent the last few weeks trying to get her back and begging her not to leave me. I even got a 2star to authorize my leave to go home and work it out, but without the knowledge I've received here, it was a disaster.
So, now I'm becoming stronger, but it seems that this is too late, that she has already decided that she wants to move on without her husband.

So, again, I'm curious if your experience at starting out that way too could help me in any way.