Maybe I should post this on the recovery board, but I've always posted here and feel more comfortable here...
Anyway, the Good News: after 11 months separated and 18 months since Dday, WH wants us to be together. "It just doesn't feel right to be separated."
The bad news: ther is no "I'm sorry" "I made a mistake" "I realize I still love you"
I realize the fogginess is till hanging around and I'm not looking for groveling but what do I do now?
I've got the fish on the hook at least, help me reel him in!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

pb, When the two of you separated...did you intiate it...as in a Plan B? If the conditions for returning were not spelled out at that time, it will be necessary to do that now. If there was an OW, no contact would have to be agreed upon. If there was abuse, anger management would have to be completed etc. I would also expect a "recovery plan" that is POJAed to follow during the initial recovery for say 6 months or so. As tempting as it is to take him back when this is like a dream come true, without conditions in place...you will quickly return to the enviroment that caused this in the first place.

PB:

Listen to Srar*fish. Have guarded optimism. Read my initial post under PLAN B REVELATIONS. I was the victim of a FALSE RECOVERY and it has been extremely traumatic for me to get over it.

To Star*fish,
My H initiated the separation-in May 02 he told me he had to leave and we made plans to tell our children in a few days. That night he came home, crying, saying he made a terrible mistake and wanted to work on things. Less than a month later, he wanted to leave- and did. Since then, I have been doing a fairly strong Plan A and was thinking about moving to Plan B when this happened.
When he told me this weekend that he wanted to come back, I told him that I only wanted him to come back if he was ready to do the hard work to repair our marriage and make it better than before. I also said he could only come back if it was to be with ME- not because he thought it was the right thing to do.
I'm really scared about another false recovery and will be reluctant to allow him back until I'm certain he has done the work he needs to do. He still has not acknowledged his affair to me!!
To Mimi-
I have followed your thread with interest and your story is one reason I am seeking guidance. I'm trying to avoid falling into believing that things are suddenly alright.
Thanks to both of you for helping me!