I received an e-mail from my husband stating that he still does not want to be married to me and that he never wants to be in a relationship again period. This marriage or any other. My problem is that when I've been talking to him on the phone lately, he's been sounding like his old self again. He told me he went and got a tatoo of a chinese symbol for wrath, he lied. Turns out it's the symbol for "love is pain" to remind him of her. He will be in my area in a week and a half and I don't know how I'm going to handle it now. I always thought he would come here and he would return to his old self. She would finally be out of the picture and he could remember our good times.

The phone conversations have been great and now this e-mail. I'm hurt all over again by him. He tells me one thing but writes another. All along he's been saying that after he gets out of the ARMY we could give it another shot. I don't know what to believe. Should I continue to stick with plan a or just give up?

IMHO???? The next time you speak to him let him know that a 'strange character' sent an e-mail to you impersonating your H. What he wrote was totally out of character so you thought you should warn your H.

Is there a chance the OW sent the e-mail?

L.

Nope. It's him. He does this tells me one thing on the phone and then write another. He was also complaining about money and how he never has any. He may have to pay for my stuff to be shipped over here because it will be going to the east instead of to me so he was complaining about the money.

I thought about calling him now to find out what is going on but am not sure. Don't really want to hear his voice right now.

<small>[ June 15, 2003, 01:44 AM: Message edited by: LunaDove ]</small>

Why call him? Did you have a specific question that only he could answer for you?

Do not expect him to change back into his old self by being home, he can't go back to the person that he was. Just can't happen!

How did you find out that he was lying about the tattoo?

They say that actions always speak louder then words, but remember that everything is muffled in the fog!!! You really must take care of yourself and your son at this time. If your H decides that he wants to come back that has to be his decision and he needs to fit into the boundaries that you have set for yourself, if he can't do that, do you really want to go back to what was going on before you left?

I am sure that a lot of good memories will come back to H and to yourself with him being back in your hometown, were you grew up, dated and first made the commitment to each other. However and this is important, You know what the those memories truly where, keep them in your heart, as WS like to revision the things from the past that were good. They want to make them less then what they were so they don't feel so bad or so quilty. Look at the thread I sent you about the resverse babbling and just babble back at him when he wants to revision your past!!!

Dawn <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Send back a vague e-mail (in case the OW is sending or reading it). Respond to something like, I checked out your 'symbol' and it says 'love is payin'. So you need to send me my stuff and $$$. Oh yea, by the way it also said something about bringing pain into a marriage, is unhealthy for your soul.....bad luck or something like that to the OP?!?!?!?'

Something like that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

L.