I need all the support i can get right now. As i mentioned I pi**ed of hubby last night on phone..was not my intention...never is but is so hard to keep feelings in!! Anyways called this mornign to wish a happy fathers day and to aplogogize...told him my intention is not to make him mad or annoyed at me. I had gotten a very nice card and a gift for fathers day just before all of this came out...the card expresses all of my feelings and what I feel..I had debated not giving it to him but I have decided to give it to him as my feelings for him have not changed.
the card itself says "To the one I love...when i first met you, I knew somehow that you should be the love of my life. And thats exactky what you are. No matter how many years go by, I'll still think of you as the person I want to share everything with, the person I most want to make happy, the one without whom life would never be the same.you are my world, my life, my everything. I love you with all my heart, and I always will. Happy fathers day."
and I wrote: Dear *****, Well, I had bought this card before everyhitng happened. I debated not giving it to you, but decided I would as my feelings have not changed and this card is so true. I love you with all my heart and I miss you so much it hurts. You are an awesome dad to our children. We have 3 wonderful kids together and we all love you very much. I couldnt ask for a better family or better dad for them. I am sorry if you have felt that I havent been there for you or if you have felt unloved by me at all, just know that I DO LOVE YOU with all of my heart, my heart is yours. And I amhere for you and will continue to be here for you. I miss you, I want you, I need you. I LOVE YOU! your wife and best friend Michelle xoxox
Am i wrong in giving this to him...am i pushing things b giving this to him?? what do you think??

michelleo_73,

If that is your true words, send it. Even it could be preceive as annoying behavior it would be the bottom of the list of LB.

-rh-

ty redhat, I did give it to him!! Then i did a bunch of no nos of course probbaly LB'ed and all that but I just need to get it out there this i=s all still so very new to me right now!! oops!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by michelleo_73:
<strong>ty redhat, I did give it to him!! Then i did a bunch of no nos of course probbaly LB'ed and all that but I just need to get it out there this i=s all still so very new to me right now!! oops!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Listen keep LB'ng you would really drive your WH away ... this one is on you since you should have control over it. However Plan A is not for everyone ... if you can't control your LB .... you might have to go to plan B or do tough love asap.

-rh-

rh thanks very much for all your replies to my posts..I am still very confused but appreciate the help and advice you have been giving to me!! As for moving on to plan b and tough love, I am not ready for that yet. I only just found out about A 3 weeks ago and so am not sure i have had enough time to move on to plan b

Then stop LB'ng <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ... you know your WH for 14 years you knows him better than OW. Stay away from his hot buttons and let OW LB'ed. Sooner or later reality will hit and hope their A won't survive.

-rh-

well thatns exactly what I am hoping for...reality to set in and him to wake up!! I know deep down if he would take down the wall and look inside he would realize he does still love me and that what we have and what we ahve created and gone through is worth trying to save!! Thanks rh