Here I go again. My husband will be arriving in the state on Friday and to my area on tuesday. I'm really dreading this visit. When he arrives in my area, he will be bringing his mother and step-dad #2 with him. I can't stand them. His dad (step-dad #1), I really like him. He seems to have more of my values. Anyway, H mom is already making plans to come get my son and have him spend the night with her. She has not called me about this or asked me if this is even ok. She called his dad and told him this. His dad suggested that she might want to call me and find out if it's ok. She hasn't. I doubt she will she always goes by her own agenda. H not even sure if our son will stay with him the night. He wouldn't before. He likes having his mommy at night.

I'm just worried that I will let everything out when he his here especially if I'm going to have his mother trying to push me around. She hasn't even seen my son since he was 18 months. This is ridiculous how she thinks she can do anything she wants, but doesn't bother to ask me about my son. I haven't heard from her in over two years and now this. I hope my son acts up for h the way he does for me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Lunadove,

So if you have plans and she didn't ask, you both don't have to be available right???

What do your parents think? What would you like to do? What do you think would be good for your child?

IMHO, if the grandmother is a stanger to the child, the child can visit with them in the company of someone the child feels safe with. Blood may be thicker than water but it can also be a stranger.

L.

I think husband will be with them, but husband has a short temper when his mom is around. I told my dad and he said he can tell everybody I went to visit my brother (he's out of state). My dad doesn't like it one bit. Son's become attached to grandpa and grandma.

They are strangers. I am extremely uncomfortable with this. I guess if she tries anything, I can always jump in the car and leave. I have family everywhere. Even family husband won't know how to reach. That is, of course, until his mother leaves. I love my husband and my son does too. I just hate that his mother will be around for a four days. IMO that's just too long. I could do what husband's dad's girlfriend plans on doing . . . leave with her to visit husband's sister. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Well she is the grandmother and if she does contact your to make arrangements, you should consider it. Having someone around that your son is familar with is important.

She is a stranger but still family. Kinda hard for a 4 year old to figure out but, they can.... those young whippersnappers have quite a knack for figuring this complex relation stuff up!! LOL <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Who can be available? Your parents? A relative?

May be she can visit with him at your parents home, then next day at the park with your parents (or an approved 3rd party), next day the zoo, etc.

Jmho,
L.

The only person that would be available is me. Both my parents are working and my mom will be working graveyard shift. Husband will be there but there will be enough tension as it is with him and his mother. A major problem I have with her is that she smokes pot. A lot. So does her new husband. I don't want my son around that.

I've just never been comfortable around her. I'm pretty sure it stems from the fact that she's a ws and step dad #2 is om. She left the step dad #1 right before husband joined army and was married within 6 months to #2. I just don't like her whole moral character. Oh, well. If I don't have to see her for another two years, all the better in letting her see him.