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D was final on June 5. Wondering if any of you feel any of these emotions...even if you are just seperated...

#1- Why won't this resentment go away
#2- Why do I feel like I still have a "longing"
for a person that treated me like crap
#3- Why do you wake up missing a WS that made you feel like pond scum?
#4- Why do I feel guilty/shame for what WS did?

I was doing pretty good, then all of these things hit me like a ton of bricks. I could use some help

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It's like the phantom limb sensation that people who have one or more limbs severed, experience right after the amputation.

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I've felt all those...it's as though I liked being married...the security of it...not having to hunt/date/be vulnerable. I would like nothing better to work at an R, yet it's not up to me. I also feel sometimes like if I HAD TRIED ENOUGH, it wouldn't have worked out this way. But then I stop and tell myself, I did my best, it's up to him to meet me halfway.

I liked being married.


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